Using his shoulder to block me /barge me

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My husband will use his shoulder to block me or to barge me aside during an argument. He’s 6 ft 2. Is this ever ok! He also gets so angry he spits all over my face shouting.

No. It's not at all acceptable. It's aggressive and abusive.

Angry about what? Not getting his own way by any chance? What a dick. It’s not ok and you know that.

He is happy for a short time - if we’ve had sex….
If I get angry with h with him he blows up q yucky - nothing overnight abiduve but more like nudges- he also quickly starts sweating at he abs calling he a count.

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Blows up at me all g I am angry with him- nothing overtly abusive but nudges with shoulder or grabbing arm or whatever but no marks. He calls me a cunt: I do get very andry with him so that is his reason.

No. It's aggressive. And it bloody hurts, sometimes.

He's abusive.

Abusive bully. Get him out of your life. Life is short and we shouldnt be putting up with these types of people in it.

Theres no prize or happy ending for doing so.

I hope you can leave - or get him to leave - safely.

Men who hit and/or frighten women are cowardly scum, they're never necessary to your life.

You get angry
He pushes s calls you names
Split up

Is this ever OK? I suppose if you're blocking a doorway and won't let him leave the room I don't know what else he could do, but it doesn't have to be done with a really hard push or barge. But if he's spitting and shouting when doing this it's obviously NOT the case.

Why do you stay?

He will escalate. Men don't start hitting, kicking and punching you from nothing, they start with the sort of behaviours you describe in your OP.

The nudges get a bit harder, the shoulder gets rammed into you rather than just blocking you, the grabbing of the arm gets tighter and does start leaving marks.

Once you get used to that, he can start slapping you when he grabs you, the nudges turn into elbows in the gut, the arm grabbing is accompanied by shaking and slapping and before you know it he'll be beating you up regularly and you'll be walking on eggshells to avoid setting him off.

Leave before he acclimates you to worse abuse than you're already putting up with. It starts gradually, gets more often and harder and by the time you realise you're being abused you'll be too scared to leave.

Leave this violent, nasty man.

I would.

Leave. As soon as possible

I wasn’t blocking him I was trying to get past him as my daughter had woken and was crying for me - he was insisting he resettle her ( he is a loving father) . He was shouldering mr out of the way and then I called him a ‘worm’ for that and he started shouting in my face covering it in spittle shouting that I was a cunt. I

He is not a loving father to his child if he treats you as her mother abusively. The only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none.

You would not want her as an adult to be in an abusive relationship either.

And do not remain with him because of your child or for lifestyle reasons, neither are any reason to remain with an abusive man.

No, he isn’t a “loving father” at all. He’s very nasty, very abusive and he needs to get out of your home, away from you and your baby.

The really important questions is, is this OK for you, and where is your line, so to speak. Abusive behaviour always starts small, Because people will put up with some things - a shoulder barge, being called a cunt etc. And once they have put up with that, the line if forever pushed, and it becomes harder and harder to draw that line, and leave.
You are already questioning if this is OK or not, because you know, for you, it isn't. This is physically abusive behaviour.
For me, I couldn't see it untill I took a giant step back from the relationship. The final tipping point was asking myself if I would be happy if my daughters were in similar relationships when they were older , if they thought this was normal behaviour that they should accept. Because that's what often happens.
If you want to leave, support is there, for me, disclosing to my GP was the first step and helped massively.

If a stranger did this to you how would you feel. What would you do?

If someone you worked with did it. How would you feel? What would you do?

So the person that’s meant to love you above all others does it… and you’re querying off it’s ok and minimising it because he’s a ‘good father’?

If your daughter married a man just like daddy dearest - would you be happy? Would you want a man shoulder barging her, getting in her face aggressively and calling her a cunt?

No “loving father” abuses the mother of his child

Shoving you is assaulting you.

He is a nasty abusive man.

Ring Women's aid for a chat and they will confirm this.

Have you family and friends who will help and support you?

Can you go and stay with them.

You are being abused.

He’s not a loving father if he’s abusing his child’s mother.

If his shoulder was a different body part like a fist would it be OK?
He is abusing his dc's dm. That makes him the cunt.

He's not a loving father. He's teaching his daughter to expect abuse from men by role modelling abusive behaviour. That's not loving, to set her up to expect abuse.

My children have special needs and I separated from him and then let him return because after 3 years and managing lockdowns alone I couldn’t take any more and my son kept crying for his father. He is actually a lovely father to the children so it’s really hard. Also I own the family home and he has little resources to provide a suitable place for them to visit and Joni won’t consider a visitation centre as they couldn’t cope with it . Because of my kids needs which makes it very hard in some situations a divorce is going to be a nightmare for tje
Both practically, psychologically and in terms of their safety as they really need two people at least all the time. This is why I let him come back . Of course I regret it now. He didn’t shove me so much as keep blocking me and pushing me with his shoulder.

Sorry I won’t consider