At the moment we are really skint, moreso than the average January, we couldn't afford to buy xmas presents for each other as a couple and ds had far less than normal. The only option I can see is a 2nd job ( I already have p/t job in civil service-can't go f/t due to nursery fees and can't afford to give work up!) as we already have an IVA and can't get into any more debt as we may lose our house etc
It just clicked with me that I have to sort it all out. Dh is in the navy and seems to hide away from problems. He has been off this week and not really dealt with the situation but continued to spend money. He has cut down and it was on food and diy stuff but he thinks I am nagging and doesn't take me seriously I feel.
Thing is I rang up and filled in application form to deliver pizzas today (!!! I know) and he said nothing. Part of me just feels like why don't you look after us, why do I have to do this. He had demotion last year through no fault of his own but it has left us unable to live on what we have and it kind of feels like I have to pick up the pieces.
One time I couldn't afford to pay for the car park in Tescos and a stranger paid it for me and dh seemed unfazed by this (dh was at home). I was mortified and again wondered why it doesn't bother him. He says as long as there is a roof over our head and we are fed and watered then what is the problem as though I am being materialistic but when money problems make you as stressed and tense as we are they can't be ignored.
I just feel angry with dh but I don't want to blame him as you marry for better and for worse etc. Any thoughts???