If you are in a healthy loving relationship

[noradelphine]

When did you/your partner say I love you?

We'd been talking online for 9 months, we'd never actually said those words but our talk had become very affectionate. When we got together ( he met me at the airport when I flew to be with him) he was standing there with a big bunch of roses and he said it straight away. So did I. We've been together for 19 years now, married for 14 years.

We started 'courting' in July 1968.
We both said the ILY words that Christmas, so 5 months.
Still say it daily 54 years on.

He said it first, I told him I wasn't ready to say it back and he was respectful of that. This has happened in most of my relationships. It just takes me longer, but I can't actually remember when I said it back. Now we say ILY multiple times a day.

About a month.
Been together nearly 30 years.
Love him more each day.

God, this is back in the Dark Ages for me. I think about three months in. But he was very drunk at a party. And also said if we're still together in a year, let's get married. I took all that with a pinch of salt.
When he said it the next time, it felt like everything shifted in that moment.
I don't remember exactly, it's so long ago!. Probably at the 5/6 month mark.
And we did marry the following year.

A month after we got together. But we were very young (18!) so that probably sped things up.

Together 9 years now.

It was about a year. I didn't need to hear the actual words anyway as all the actions were thoughtful, loving and caring (and never love bomby or smothering) and then it was all the more special when he did say it

About a month but felt it sooner. We moved in together after about three months. Totally out of character for both of us and 11 years on we are still very happy (only got married 5 years ago though)

About six months. We are both the type to take things slowly.

6 month

A few months in.

Why do you ask? I don’t think there’s any link between how quickly or not you use the l word and how good your relationship is.

After a couple of months

I can't remember. It was 30 years ago though, so that's my excuse.

We decided to get married within 6 months so some time before that I presume.

1978. Still together.

6 weeks. Been together 20years this year.

3 months.

After a couple of months. We’ve been together nine years, we’re married with one child.

6 months

6 months!

Two weeks, but we both knew immediately.

About 2 years. A cautious start. That was 10 years ago now.

About 6 months in. We’re together 21 years this year.

6 months for me, 1 year for him.

Somewhere between a year and 18 months