Ghosted for the third time, what is wrong with me.

[Robbierolo]

Third time it's happened with third guy from OLD
What's wrong with me :(

Nothing at all, it's just modern 'manners'.

Absolutely nothing. You have the manners to appreciate that 'ghosting' someone is just rude.

The fault lies with them. It takes 30 seconds to send a text to say something along the lines of I don't think this is for me. All the best for the future.

Agree with @Summerhillsquare nothing is wrong with you it’s modern ways of dating.

It happens all the time unfortunately, consider it a lucky escape!

I probably need to develop a much thicker skin for online dating

I do think it’s common now from what I’ve heard, so it isn’t just you.

It happens a lot unfortunately, happened to me twice in a row when I did OLD a few years ago, I took it really personally but soon realised I shouldn’t have. Like pp said, it’s just modern manners. There are some nice people on there too, you just have to try quite hard to find them.

It’s super common. Don’t take it badly. My girlfriends (who are dating), always make sure they drop a note saying they’re not feeling it. As do I when I can be bothered with OLD. It’s a hard message to send though. We craft them together and hate pressing send but make sure we do. It’s amazing how many people don’t.

It's not you, it's the messed up world of OLD.
There are nice ones on there, I've never been ghosted or ghosted anyone while OLD, so it is possible.
It's ok to take time out when you get fed up of it all, it can be pretty soul-destroying and energy draining even when it's going ok!

Run of bad luck in the modern dating world. On the plus side...they took themselves out and saved you the bother. Onwards!

Sorry you've met guys who have no manners. Had you dated any of them for long? In these times most people do just not contact people again if they've only been out a couple of times. Ghosting used to refer to someone you'd been seeing who then stopped talking to you. Doesn't make it any better but if you hadn't spent much time with them that's far more typical behavior than not

@Summerhillsquare

Nothing at all, it's just modern 'manners'.

Or lack of.

Nothing is wrong with you Xx

It’s not you. It’s just rude people.

Have you actually been ghosted, or is it more that the conversation has railed off and neither of you have bothered picking it back up? (That’s common too)

A nice way of looking at it I think, is that I would never treat anybody ever the way many men on OLD treat me. And that makes me feel like a nicer person than them.

But I would agree with an above poster to say that many people use 'ghosting' when a convo has just fizzled out. I wouldn't consider it ghosting unless you've had at least a few dates, probably sex, and then they just disappear. That to me is ghosting. It's never happened to me. But what has happened very often is that after a bit of chit chat it's clear you're not a match, and that just fizzles. I think some people call that ghosting when it isn't.

Nothing.

It's them.

No it's actual ghosting, the first person I spoke to for a month, 3 failed attempts to meet up, he ghosted me completely after. Second one I met up with, he said i was v attractive and wanted to meet up again and then never ever heard from him. Third one, we got to face time and again we arranged to meet, an hour before meeting he text me to say he couldn't make it because of work, then he blocked me. Feeling quite bruised.

It's definitely them!!They sound hopeless and flakey. Would you really have wanted to waste any more time on any of them?

Wow, having read your update - what arseholes. All 3 of them. I think you've been unlucky op. And, definitely, nothing to do with you. It's all on them. Because if they didn't like you, they could have just dropped a one sentence text. So, it's simply because they're twats.

It doesn't feel like it, but they've done you a favour.

Are you new to OLD op? Because of this thread, I've just taken the liberty of scrolling through my whatsapp remembering how each of my 'relationships' 😂 finished. Anyway, turns out men disappeared a lot more without a word in my early days of OLD, but haven't for at least a year. I wonder if I've got savvier.

I'm trying to think of it as that they've done me a favour. Do feel quite bruised about it but I suppose I need to develop a thicker skin.

Sorry that's not really ghosting. I'm not excusing their behaviour but not staying in contact with someone you've never met or only met once or twice, very common for people to fade out. If a guy is interested you'll know about it

This has happened more often than not to me!

It's not you it's definitely them - people are horrible and cowardly