The lies they tell about their ex....

[Triffid1]

Maybe it's just me but after years on MN and watching a few real life friends go through tough break ups, I'm now 100% in the "don't believe a word he says about his ex" camp. Which of course is ridiculous - women aren't universally perfect and rational in relationships but.... well, it seems to me that a LOT of the time he's just talking absolute rubbish!

A few of my favourites:

"His ex won't let him see the children" [amazing how seldom the man attempts to take this further via court/mediation etc]

"She just wants more maintenance from him/she'll spend all the money on herself while he then has to pay for everything for the children" - a bit of digging usually finds that he spotted her getting her hair done or going to the pub and is now outraged that the £150 he gives her is being wasted on fripperies.....

"She was controlling". I love this one. 9/10 she just objected to him going out on the piss every weekend while she was at home with 2 toddlers!

"She's trying to take me to the cleaners - I worked hard for that money!". DH has had a few conversations with male friends who spout this in all male environments... DH is less than sympathetic.

Any others you've all seen and heard to share?

@Triffid1
You listed some what looks like clear examples, however I'm always perplexed as why the other party should receive the home.
Personally I believe all assets should be dissolved, financial clean break and everyone starts again.
At whatever level that happens to be.

My own opinion is some couples continue to be entwined in a eternal game of destroy each other post divorce.

I knew the crazy ex line was a red flag.

When I first met exh he told me they were civil, he had 50/50 and still paid child support. I thought wow what a great dad and man he is.

Then he drip fed to me what she was 'really like'. She was awful but so was he. I remember when we went away for the first time, she knew we were going away and she rang him and ranted at him and changed the pick up time for their ds on the day back. But he fed that drama. All through our marriage he continued engaging in the drama.

And it continued. And then I found out they still slept together occasionally before he got with me. No wonder she went batshit.

I am so glad he's my ex now. Roll on divorce day!

I do know that my ex has told people that I left him, implying it was all down to me that we split and he didnt want to. He hasnt told them he beat me so badly and tried to kill me via strangulation that if the police hadnt fucked it up then he could have been on an attempted murder charge. He didnt tell them that he has to see DD at his mum as SS will not allow him to see her unsupervised, or that the reason I drop her off and pick her up is because he isnt allowed near the house.

Why let the truth stand in the way of being perma-victim. So yes OP I do get what you mean. I am not sure he would call me the crazy ex but he does very much like to imply that his limited time with DD is because of me.