What are your red lines in a relationship?

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And would you absolutely stick to your guns (i.e. leave) if your red line/a were crossed?

And I don’t feel brave - every day I cry and wish I could go back to him. It’s only blind stubbornness keeping my resolve tbh!

[quote EarthSight]@Mermaidwaves Try to be kind to your past self. There were reasons why you stayed and it's easy for your current self to judge your past because now you've learnt things you didn't know or see back then.[/quote]
This is so true.

Any kind of abuse
Racism
Sexism
Cheating
Has children
Has a dog
Any kind of use of sex workers, including strip clubs
Pushy/pestering about sex
Porn use
Snobbery
Fussy eating
Meanness

Is OP a lazy journalist?

@RoyKentsChestHair stay strong, I went back time and time again to someone with high narcasstic traits, sold my soul to that demon and ended up being brutally discarded and his new supply was in place the same day. Cry as much as you want but dont go back xx

Thank you @JLBear12 you just saved me from myself! I opened up my phone with tears in my eyes thinking “I’ll just message him that I miss him, what harm could come from that?!” But instead I saw your post and realised it was a stupid idea.

Li

Cry as much as you want but dont go back xx

I needed to hear this today, too. PP x

@RoyKentsChestHair trust me it can do a lot of harm, I am 4 months out and still cry daily. I ended up on diazepam and sleeping pills because of my keep going back. Put yourself first, always xx

@Hopefullyoneday12 I have to tell myself daily do not message. 5 and a half years of my life I wasted on that man child. Has there been any abuse in your relationship?x

I think I have so many I’ll probably never date again. 😂 I put up with too much shit in the past.

Apart from all the big obvious ones people have said, I think the biggest things are lying (about ANYTHING) or displaying low empathy for others.

Small lies almost always turn into big ones, so I want nothing to do with dishonest people.

Much of what has already been mentioned.

Plus heavy or problem drinking and a really poor attitude towards finances.

No cheaters, no liars, no golfers, no smokers, no Tories

Criminal record
Problems with debt
Lack of kindness/ empathy
Lies
Selfishness
History of abusing others or 'misunderstandings'
Lateness during the early stages of dating
Any 'ism'...racism, sexism etc

Amazing how many say they would leave but then you read some awful behaviour from men on here and people don’t leave for reasons they often are no more than “but I love him”

Cheating, gaslighting, watching porn, not being understanding of my disability, being violent. I have a lot tbf

@zeldaonadreamcloud

Worst relationship advice I was ever given was ' Don't sweat the small stuff' I am now older and wiser and I know to ALWAYS sweat the small stuff, as it is in that that a good relationship is found or lost.

I suppose essentially, if you can't talk things through like reasonable adults, then its time to leave.

Excellent post

@JLBear12
Thanks for asking.
No abuse. It is only a short term fling coming to an end after 3months but I'm finding it very hard and feel like I was so high and feeling amazing and it's so quickly come crashing down and I feel desperate, ridiculous and rejected.
I have had help on this board and it's been keeping me going tbh. Although every time he messages me I reply still. But I am no longer opening then immediately. I know I need to finish it for good but part of me just wants that amazing giddiness back.