My husband recently brought to my attention he had been gambling again. The first time about 4years ago I found out by accident but this time he came to tell me.
He has spent savings and even lied about borrowing money from myself.... I should have known better. On top of that there is credit cards, loans and personal borrowing from friends. About £18k he sold his motorbike to make a dent in it but it's know where near to being gone.
This time I have refused to pay it off. I said I will support him but I won't play banker.
I managed to sort out the creditors and froze interest and arranged payment plans. However I gave in and started paying his personal debts when they put the pressure on.
He is determined to make amends and is working all hours to "fix" it. We have 3 young children and it is putting pressure on our marriage. I get upset a lot and cry daily. During the first couple of weeks he couldn't do enough but that's come to an end.
Last night I cried and told him I was still upset and the knock on effect it's had on our family. He basically told me he is doing everything he can to fix it and working all hours and it's him that's the victim not me. I'm so lost, I feel constantly ill and I don't know what to do.