Partner told my sister he wanted to sleep with her

[me271234]

Hi all, I have found myself in a situation and don't know how to deal with it without yelling at my partner. At my brothers wake my partner of 12 years told me sister that he basically wanted to have sex with her and eventually they will have sex one day, my partner was drunk at the time so my sister just laughed it off. She told me about a week or so later, obviously I wasn't very happy, I confronted my partner who denied and denied it at first but then came clean and said he was drunk and says stupid things when he is drunk, to be honest that's not something I would even consider saying if I was drunk myself. The thing is I've always thought he had a thing for my sister, he's always winding her up and sometimes practically flirting with her in front of me. I have another sister also, but he is never like that with her. I'm struggling to get my head around it all and I don't think I can trust him now, it has hurt me to the core. I'm just in limbo at the moment because I don't know what to do, everytime I talk to him I just get angry. Any advice would be great.

I think what you need to do is pretty obvious...

He propositioned your sister at your brother's wake.

He is a creep and you get rid of him.

You also let him get away with cheating in the past and you say he has been 'disrespectful' before.

Raise your standards.

Oh it so often comes down to money doesn’t it, where women get themselves into this situation. Hitting on your sister is the worst. And it means you know he’s hitting on others when you’re not there. The utter humiliation of knowing he has the hots for your sister and would act on it.

I feel so bad for you. The fact it took your sister a week means she is very bothered by it and playing it down to try to help you, she’s clearly thought about it long and hard and decided she needs to tell you but knows you’re in a very bad situation.

Your self esteem is taking a battering, you say you now feel bad about your appearance and negatively comparing yourself to your sister. Thay this man can do this to you is so bad.

How often for her too, having to deal with this sleaze bag perving on her. It’s not about her being hot or not, it’s just him being a perv and there will be many other women he’s cracking onto. It shows how bad it’s got when he’d even hit on your own sister.

I’m so sorry op that it’s come to this.

He sexually harassed your grieving sister at your brother's wake.

He was sending explicit messages to other women early in your relationship.

He refused to do his share of night feedings (despite you begging), because your baby is a girl.

And you're in a situation where he owns the house and has all the money?

You need to end this 'relationship', phone Women's Aid, and do some SERIOUS work on your boundaries and self esteem.

Never give all your power to a man ever again & look after your baby girl.