Basically I dated a guy for a month who then told me he didn’t want a relationship, like the idiot I am I hung about for two years just seeing him casually as I had strong feelings for him (he would tell me he didn’t want a relationship I know it’s partly my fault) when he was with me I couldn’t believe he didn’t feel the same with how he acted then he would go away and act like I didn’t exist, he would randomly come back and be nice to me for a week or a few days then go away again and repeat when he felt like it. he would say things like he was proud of me and he missed me etc but then in a few days retract it and say things like he didn’t miss me that much? He would say little things to upset me and I would ask why he would do that and he would say to get a reaction out of me? He would say things then when I questioned him he’d say he was just joking.He also told me his ex left him because he made her depression worse, which I guess I should of seen as a red flag? I found out in the last week he has a new girlfriend and I honestly feel heartbroken after he’s spent two years telling me he didn’t want a relationship. My question really does it sound like I’ve been gaslighted? Or did he just act that way because he didn’t want me. I’m probably being stupid and just not wanting to accept it but obviously am hurt by it all. Thanks for any advice x