He talked about his dating

[countrylady2]

I bumped into an old friend in the pub earlier. He saw me come out of the toilet and seemed a bit flustered and said to come and sit with him and his friends. I was madly in love with him years ago. There was a connection there but he didn't want to take it further.

Looking back he is an emotionally unavailable guy with women he has tried dating. I'm not saying he wanted to date me but he will still be single in 5 years. We are part of some outdoors groups online and he seems like he clicks like on a lot of the profiles of the women. Earlier the guys were talking about their Bumble experiences and he said he dated 2 women at the same time which he said got messy but he was annoyed he couldn't log into the app when he was not in his area in case the women knew he was still looking. I'm 38 and he is 50 and he said he has been going on dates with 36 year olds so they are younger than me. He was quite cagey more than the guys about his dating.

I know we are not dating but it's really not nice to hear his dating stories. I told the guys about my anonymous Valentines card and showed them what was written but he didn't want to look at the pictures.

I don't see why people are being harsh about the valentines card. We were talking about dating stories. It's not like its completely random and unrelated.

@countrylady2

I don't see why people are being harsh about the valentines card. We were talking about dating stories. It's not like its completely random and unrelated.

Maybe because you're instantly recognisable as the poster who obsesses over various male acquaintances in walking groups on a regular basis, and you're fairly dismissive and insulting about them?!

@countrylady2

I don't see why people are being harsh about the valentines card. We were talking about dating stories. It's not like its completely random and unrelated.

So his stories were totally related to the converstation as well?

Its weird because you didn't just mention it, you then had a photo to hand and edited to show them all. To try and rattle him. Then complaining about him telling dating stories.

And since you keep ignoring the question, I can only assume you knew where he was going to be and turned up there on purpose for exactly this reason.

You seem obsessed that these women are younger, would you be more approving of his treatment of them if they were older than you? The same age as him?

The younger women you are talking about are in their mid 30s. But you seen to be portraying them as very young vulnerable women.

I think he sounds like he never wants to grow up and was trying to show off in front of his friends. Better off without him. If you didn’t like the way the conversation was going then should of just excused yourself and left.
He wasn’t bothered by the anonymous valentines because he probably wasn’t interested in hearing about it. I don’t think it was a case of him feeling jealous or anything, I think he’s just the type of guy who wants everyone to like and want him.
Better off next time you bump into him is to say a polite hello and leave it at that.

another one not understanding why you’d show him and his friends a photo of your valentines card. just forget him, he’s not into you

@countrylady2

I don't see why people are being harsh about the valentines card. We were talking about dating stories. It's not like its completely random and unrelated.

Because it’s so babyish and silly!

Ah, op, you’ve still got a crush on him haven’t you? Showing them a pic of an anonymous valentines card you apparently received was clearly an attempt to make him jealous.

Try to move on. He’s not interested, I’m sorry.

Im afraid this OP is a complete fantasist who posts endless threads about her romantic interests who are purely acquaintances, so it's difficult to engage at this level when she is so disingenuous about other things.

Is this the same OP who last year had difficulty with another apparent narc she'd briefly dated and 'bumped into' in a pub?

Stop going to pubs, OP. That'd be my advice.

Op, is this the third thread about the same man? It does seem as if it is.

Is there anything you can do to stop obsessing over him?

@LetHimHaveIt

Is this the same OP who last year had difficulty with another apparent narc she'd briefly dated and 'bumped into' in a pub?

Stop going to pubs, OP. That'd be my advice.

I think it’s th same man.

Probably. I can't remember the details, but I was struck by the fact that, then, as now, OP has 'bumped into' him in a pub and then tried to make him jealous. This time she flashing around screenshots of a Valentines card; back then, she started chatting up a bloke and he didn't like it. Or something.

I'm so confused by this whole story
I read it yesterday and again today, and I still haven't a clue 🙃