I know I shouldn't care but I'm really struggling with my ExH moving on...
We separated 2 years ago after I discovered a 3rd affair. He was also really controlling during our relationship and since he left he became emotionally and financially abusive. He doesn't have much interest in seeing our kids, sees them eow and one night a week, and the odd day on holidays (one day in whole 6 weeks summer for eg). In 2 weeks I move out of our family home as he had starved us out. He has been vile to me... I nearly reported him to the police it got that bad.
Now his new GF is 12 years younger that him, no kids. After 3 months she moved in with him and now, after 6 months they have both sold their cars and are buying one together, so clearly high levels of commitment.
Apparently he's told her all about his affairs and she's fine with it. She knows how often he sees the kids and she helped him draft the letter to my solicitor explaining he was stopping payments to force me out of the family home, which of course they are moving in to together.
So my question is, wtf is she thinking? Kids say she is nice etc. But I just don't understand how someone could move so quickly into a committed relationship. Surely she should be thinking they are a lot of red flags?
I know my exH can be charming and he's outgoing and funny and confident (arrogant!).I know why I fell for him, but I was also only 19 and naive, and of course he had no baggage then. Please help me see her perspective!