I started talking to someone about 6 months ago, after I'd split from my ex. He got in touch with me. He knew I wasn't over my ex at the time and knew I was not looking for a relationship, because I actually said this to him. I thought we had become friends. We talked a lot. Sometimes we were a bit flirty and on occasion did cross the line of friendship and had sex. And there were some feelings on my side, but nothing I wanted to act on because I didn't want a relationship. With anyone. If we'd met at a different time in my life then, yes, it would have been different.
Then things started to get a bit weird between us and he said this whole time he's been hoping I'd change my mind about a relationship, but he can see I'm not going to. He said he has enough friends and doesn't need another one, so wants nothing more to do with me.
It really hurts. I'm not good enough to be his friend? But would be OK for a relationship? I don't get it.
I know I need to get over it and he's entitled to feel how he feels and never speak to me again if thats what he wants, I can't change that, but it's so hard to be cut out of someone's life like that.
I know it probably looks like I was being selfish and leading him on. Maybe I was but I honestly didnt mean to. I was always honest about not wanting a relationship. He did make me happy and I enjoyed his company. Ireally valued our friendship.
Now I feel a bit used and like the whole relationship between us was fake on his side and just some ploy to try and get me to date him/have sex with him! I feel like he's punishing me for not wanting to take things further by taking away his friendship. He never really cared about me did he? He has walked away from our 'friendship' because I won't have a romantic relationship with him.