Valentine's Day with lazy slob!

[Mamas123]

So it's Valentine's Day and my other half took today off as he was out Saturday so knew he would need a few days to recover from a hangover. I got my flowers and card on Friday.
Now I know he is awake as he's online on social media and chat etc. but when I've gone in the room he immediately isn't online and pretends to be asleep.
He generally never spends time with me anyway, always on gaming in bed while I'm on my own in the living room. I thought he might at least make an effort today as he wrote in his card he will make dinner for me etc.
I just gave him his valentines gifts from me and told him here's your Valentine's presents when you stop pretending to be asleep. He replied he's ill... I just said well you could at least say happy Valentine's to me seeing as you're capable to go on message and social media and chat to whoever is on there. But fine don't talk to me as usual!
Am I being a unreasonable to want to spend time with him and have him be a bit more romantic as it's Valentine's Day. He never does anything anyway and I'm always the one to initiate things (sexual and non sexual, date nights etc) I'm finding this relationship very boring and I feel lonely. I have said this to him in the past and he then gets better but then back to how it is again.

Why are you putting up with this? Does he pay all the bills? Are you living for free in his house?

Why are you even putting up with this lazy excuse of a man. Get rid be happy and live your life.

You know you are not unreasonable to want him to spend time with you. Not be a sloth. Actually give a sh*t

But it doesn't seem this is what he wants :(

Thanks all. Well just an update. He did come down to say happy Valentine's Day (after I messaged him that his phone is clearly more important than saying happy valentines to me). No kiss etc and has since just stayed in bed.
Now in his card it says that he would cook dinner but he clearly isn't so im about to cook (but I won't be offering him any seeing as he's too hungover to even get out of bed)
I have messaged him (even though he is upstairs) that im deeply upset and lonely etc and again he just says that he wants to change and to be better for me and be with me but doesn't know how and he's too laid back and that's just how he is as a person and it's him and not me, he has always been this way and doesn't like to let anyone in.) I've told him that this isn't healthy and he will be a very lonely old man if he doesn't change that state of mind. I also suggested that we should separate as it's not fair on me to feel like this. But he still hasn't moved from the bed!

A package has also came which is for me from him but I haven't opened it as I'm waiting for him to give it to me if it's a valentines gift.

Get rid. Deadweight.

My ex was like this one year I’d done bits for him he just said “I’ll go out if your not happy” drinker I never bothered again the last year I was with him he mentioned valentines I ripped his head off. No get rid

Why are you together? It sounds like you both can't stand each other!

@BeneficiaryMadness

He’s too ill to get out of bed on a Monday after drinking on Saturday?? WTF?

THIS!! Never mind Valentines, I couldn't be arsed to be with someone who drinks so much they need 2 days to "recover", how convenient!

Why are you even together?

What do you get out of this relationship that is positive OP?

@AmbushedByCake1

What do you get out of this relationship that is positive OP?

Well it was company but I don't even get that anymore. So nothing I guess

I hope he's the best sex of your life or is he completely useless? I'm getting wound up at the thought of such a man-child and it's not me who has to put up with him. Seriously. Life is far too short for this shit.

@cherrysthename

I hope he's the best sex of your life or is he completely useless? I'm getting wound up at the thought of such a man-child and it's not me who has to put up with him. Seriously. Life is far too short for this shit.

We don't have sex... only if I initiate it and even then I sometimes get a no

Get rid of this waste of space. Gaming, pretending to be asleep when online grrr proper man child. You'll be better off single and trust me you will be happier.

He sounds completely and utterly dreary OP - please don’t waste another second ‘hoping’ for anything from him, just get rid of him!

Give yourself the valentines gift of ditching this loser.

He’s just wasting valuable time you could be looking for an actually decent life partner. Do you see yourself in this relationship a year from now?

Oh come on, really, what on earth are you doing with your life?

Please end the relationship. Love and respect yourself.

can you manage financially without him?

Oh please, please raise your bar OP. Surely you can do better!! He's treating you with complete contempt. Please don't come back to update that you carry him financially too

Depending on your situation (some people literally have nowhere to go) I'd leave him asap. It's not just about Valentine's (which I personally do not care for as a "celebration" and we deliberately do the romantic bit on random not 14feb days) but it's his general attitude and you are making an effort for nothing. Casting pearls before the swine

He's childish, pointless and a waste of space. The energy you have spent writing about him could have been spent working out how to bin him. DO IT!

Gifts are not love. So just because he's ordered something off the internet (which he can't be arsed to come downstairs and get) doesn't mean he loves you. If he loves you he'd want to spend time with you. Please leave him.