This is my first time posting on something like this but I really would like some advice and don’t really have anyone else to talk to.
My other half does absolutely nothing around the house. He does cook maybe once a week and he will clean his own plate if I’ve already finished washing but that’s it. He works long hours and I totally understand for him to rest but I also work part time and I still do everything around the home. He has weekends off and again he will not do anything. He will stay in bed all day and night playing games. He also does this after work in the evenings. We are hardly intimate with each other, only if I’ve initiated it and sometimes he will refuse as he’s tired. When I do initiate it it’s because it’s been nearly a month without any kind of intimacy. Not even a cuddle or kiss. He never suggests date nights etc. it’s always me. I have spoken to him about this many times and nothing changes. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have a lodger and I’m just a maid. I feel so lonely in this relationship as I’m always on the sofa on my own. I now go up to bed once I know he will be asleep as it annoys me so much that he can be on the PlayStation talking to mates or on his phone playing games etc but doesn’t spend any time with me. He tells me he loves me but I don’t feel like he does as he doesn’t show me. He also doesn’t wash or brush his teeth very often either so sometimes I actually don’t want to be near him.
I have children of my own and I don’t want them to think this is how a relationship is either.