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Valentines Day

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CambsAlways · 13/02/2022 12:34

Do you buy your love one a valentines card or present! We have always done it ! Yes it’s commercialised I know and yes you should appreciate them everyday regardless of which day it is! It’s one day a year!

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Thethreecs · 13/02/2022 12:42

Yes, we exchange cards and a token gift. It really does not cost much and just a bit of fun. We don't ignore each other the other days of the year and only show love on valentines day. Tbh dh is usually working and we exchange cards the night before or early that morning.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 13/02/2022 12:46

Yes, I do. Nothing mad or expensive.

This year I bought him a t-shirt with characters from his favourite film and a jar of his favourite sweets.

We’re supposed to be going out tomorrow but with work stuff going on I think he’s forgotten to book anywhere.

Suprima · 13/02/2022 12:48

The people who say Valentine’s is a shit Hallmark holiday and scoff that you should show love the other 364 days of year instead usually have husbands and partners who never ‘show love’ with flowers or a little token ‘just because’ anyway. Or organise a bloody date.

We don’t do cards- but little presents and OH will end up cooking. It’s doesn’t have to be rose petals and cringe I LOVE U bears and candlelight- just a nice day (usually midweek) where you set aside extra time to do something nice together and surprise the person you love.

Never understood the sourness over it- and I’ve always given men who bemoan it an extremely wide berth. They tend not to mind about commercialism when it suits them.

Aria2015 · 13/02/2022 13:00

Yes we do. Pre kids we always had a meal out but now it's a nice dinner at home and we exchange cards. I usually get a red rose and I usually send some sweet treats to his work. It's just a bit of fun and I do like a bit of romance so why not!?

vjg13 · 13/02/2022 13:32

No, we don't. We do eat out and buy flowers at other times of year though!

BuritoCat · 13/02/2022 13:33

Some years we do other years we don't depends what's going on in life.
This year he brought me roses, a card and chocolate though. I didn't get him anything but he did recently have a expensive new bike so evens out!

Lolabray · 13/02/2022 13:35

I did not now I’m single

frozendaisy · 13/02/2022 13:42

Don't buy anything, although he would buy me anything I sent a link to if that kept me happy, but usually do a longer happy valentine's Day cuddle in the morning but if we don't it really doesn't matter.

It's fun when you are young, it's a bit anonymous, but when the "happy valentine's Day to my wife" cards appeared it's a load of commercial nonsense from the original celebration.

So no we don't do gifts but we are both on exactly the same page in that the no cards, gifts, are not indicative of our relationship.

lucylucyapplejuicy · 13/02/2022 13:43

We do just a card & I've bought him some chocolates this year. We wouldn't be upset if either forgot or we didn't bother but it's just something we have always done for the last 10 years.

Justkeepon · 13/02/2022 13:50

usually do a longer happy valentine's Day cuddle in the mornin

Ahh is that what the kids are callin it these days

Wherearemymarbles · 13/02/2022 13:53

Maybe our 1st valentines. But not for the last 27 years.
Both equally bah, humbug! about the whole thing!

ImInStealthMode · 13/02/2022 13:57

We exchange cards and we went out for a nice dinner last night. He got me some daffodils today but he buys me flowers often so they're not necessarily Valentines related.

The first year we were together Valentines came about 6 weeks into dating and I got into a terrible flap about trying to find the right tone with card and gift (I knew he was getting me a gift so had to reciprocate). It was stressful and unnecessary and we decided then and there to knock gifts on the head going forwards.

OrlandointheWilderness · 13/02/2022 13:59

Just a card.

tigger1001 · 13/02/2022 14:05

Nothing here. And we are both on the same page about it.

In all honestly have never "done" Valentine's Day

Crazykatie · 13/02/2022 14:09

He’s pretty romantic, I know we have an evening meal booked, what else will be a surprise tomorrow.

Ludoole · 13/02/2022 14:10

We used to but not this year because he's being a total arsehole...

ldontWanna · 13/02/2022 14:15

We do. Small little things and a card. I actually asked if we should skip it this year as he's working away but he said he'd like to exchange cards tonight. So that's what we're doing. I'm not particularly fussed to be honest.

galacticpixels · 13/02/2022 14:44

We do cards, a small gift, and order a takeaway. This year for our gifts we decided to each buy a new board game for our collection and then play the games and have some drinks as our Valentine's date. We're actually doing it this evening instead of tomorrow because of work.

We both feel we spent long enough being the Single Ones on Valentine's, that it's nice to mark it. 😊

Newnamefor2022 · 13/02/2022 14:51

We do cards and small gifts and a meal (usually at home and with the kids!). It's just a bit of fun.

Nomorepastry · 13/02/2022 14:51

Nope, in fact I don't think I've ever seen him on valentines day. Been together since 2015

Ragwort · 13/02/2022 14:54

Yes, we exchange cards and have a nice meal (Waitrose meal deal ) planned for tonight ... but we do have nice meals with wine most nights .

Buildingthefuture · 13/02/2022 15:22

Yep and have done for 17 years.

RavenclawsRoar · 13/02/2022 16:14

We don't do cards and presents but usually go out for (or order in) a nice meal and it's lovely.

mydogisthebest · 13/02/2022 17:56

Yes we always buy a card for each other and have done for 42 years.

Some years we will buy a present, but only usually something small like a book, cd etc.

Some years we get a takeaway, some we eat out and some we have a nice meal at home. Some years we have gone away for the night (or couple of nights)

We are going out for the day tomorrow and going for a curry in the evening

PlanetNormal · 13/02/2022 18:02

No. Never have, never will.

It’s a load of commercialised nonsense aimed at those who think they have to express affection for their partners when the marketing department of Tesco tell them to.

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