How often do you …..

[GeneLovesJezebel]

See your children who are at Uni, how often do they text/call you, and how often do you see your children who have left home ?
Feeling a bit lonely and unloved right now 😩

We text & ft regularly- BUT she is in a not great halls (no one talks or has tried to mix) she has friends though but as they still having online lectures etc she spends a lot of time alone - so i probably reach out more than I y too ! When I don’t hear from her I know she ok and with friends doing uni stuff!!
I’m hoping next September to hear a lot less from her as she in a house share with friends!

@Lovemusic33

I think if you don’t hear much from them you know you have done a great job raising them to be independent.

My dd is going to uni in September (hopefully), she is autistic and I am worried sick, I will also miss her loads, I would like to think that if I don’t hear from her that she is doing well. I have told her she is welcome home at the weekends if f she wants or I can meet up with her but obviously if she makes friends and doesn’t want to come home that’s fine too.

My autistic son needed a lot more support at first. That was partly due to all societies being closed during lockdown in his first year so he found it incredibly hard to make friends just through the illicit parties going on everywhere.

A regular family Zoom, with top up texts, weekend visits and me visiting him helped with the transition. He is now pretty happy and has a couple of solid friendship groups.

Text every day. At least once. Often a FaceTime and a phone call as well.

Dd 22. At uni.

When I was a student I phoned home on a Wednesday and Sunday.

Then when I got an office job and my mum retired I phoned her every day.

We have a family whatsapp group and there's lots of contact on that. From daily wordle scores to pictures of the dog and photos. Other than that, chats are more adhoc. Can you set one of those up?

My youngest dd has visited once this term so far but I havent seen the other one since she went back after Christmas (although it was actually not that long ago - late Jan). I'm seeing them both next weekend.

Unless I messaged my ds I wouldn't hear from him. He's still like it now he is living with his gf. I tend to send him recipes I've enjoyed, or funny things the pets have done.

When I was at uni one weekly phonecall sometimes a video call

Text at least once a week.

I was too far away to visit really so only came home during the holidays