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Would you send someone money...

35 replies

Katie2017 · 13/02/2022 00:01

For holiday funds for yourself and them (your partner) to spend whilst over there if the holiday destination was the partners country? Would it be easier/more convenient that way because it's their home or is it dodgy AF to send them money, especially if you hadn't been dating long?

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MaryAndHerNet · 13/02/2022 00:02

You've not been dating long and they live in another country?

No, fuck that.
Ropey as fuck.

SpittinKitten · 13/02/2022 00:04

Nope nope nope nope nope.

PossiblyDreaming · 13/02/2022 00:04

Dodgy as hell. What is their reasoning for them wanting to having the spending money?

DropYourSword · 13/02/2022 00:04

Hell no I wouldn't!

itsoveritshard · 13/02/2022 00:05

Is it a long distance relationship? Why can you not take money over in the local currency?

On the face of it I wouldn't send any money.

WelliesWithHeels · 13/02/2022 00:06

No way! Why on earth would you not just take their own money and they can use their own?

WelliesWithHeels · 13/02/2022 00:07

Sorry, your own money!

MaryAndHerNet · 13/02/2022 00:10

If this transpires to be the first time you're travelling to meet them...
And they want you to send them money for you to spend when you get there...

I'll be as surprised as Mrs Surprised From Suprisetown that's just walked into a Surprise Birthday party that had a canon go off behind her back...

FrostedCupcakes · 13/02/2022 00:10

NOPE.

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Katie2017 · 13/02/2022 00:11

@PossiblyDreaming

Dodgy as hell. What is their reasoning for them wanting to having the spending money?
I'm not sure, there WAS a reason for it (something about the exchange rate maybe?) I dunno, it didn't make any sense to me. It's not my situation, worried about my uncle. He denied it was partners idea when I asked but he's a terrible liar and I didn't believe him. Have already tried to warn but is falling on deaf ears, now wondering what to do.
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Hen2018 · 13/02/2022 00:11

No

Thewindwhispers · 13/02/2022 00:12

Dodgy!!

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Katie2017 · 13/02/2022 00:13

@MaryAndHerNet

If this transpires to be the first time you're travelling to meet them... And they want you to send them money for you to spend when you get there...

I'll be as surprised as Mrs Surprised From Suprisetown that's just walked into a Surprise Birthday party that had a canon go off behind her back...

No they are already dating whilst they've been over here in person (but not for very long) and partner has met family and friends so that makes me slightly less sceptical but still..
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ClariceQuiff · 13/02/2022 00:15

NO.

Have already tried to warn but is falling on deaf ears, now wondering what to do.

Contact the police - they might be prepared to speak to your uncle and tell him this is a scam.

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Katie2017 · 13/02/2022 00:37

@ClariceQuiff it's good advice, but considering how defensive thy got when I warned them before I think all hell would break loose.

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HollowTalk · 13/02/2022 00:43

What about suggesting he gets one of those cards where he pays in sterling onto the card but withdraws it in the currency of that country? We don't know if she is a scammer but there isn't any reason in the world why he should give her the money in advance.

Pinotpleasure · 13/02/2022 00:45

Watch “The Tinder Swindler” on Netflix 😱

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Katie2017 · 13/02/2022 15:46

@Hollowtalk I'll look into it thanks, hopefully he hasn't already transferred the money. Yeh I can't see any reason either to do it but then I haven't been abroad in years with a partner, but I know it's not something I'd do after a very short time.

@Pinopleasure not got Netflix but have read about the story, already knew to be on the lookout for a yarn about some emergency with her or her family and needing money. Uncle would probably try and borrow any further funds from his DM (I've warned her not to lend him any) as he's not well off himself. That's the thing she's not picked a rich guy if she is going to rip him off although I wouldn't be surprised if he has lied himself about his wealth!

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LIZS · 13/02/2022 15:49

The "holiday" will suddenly get cancelled and other person get mysteriously ill/held by police needing more funds to be transferred.

Rua13 · 13/02/2022 15:50

Run.Next somebody will need an operation etc etc.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 13/02/2022 16:18

she's not picked a rich guy if she is going to rip him off

Which country is involved OP? I ask because in some, the view is that all westerners are rich
There's also the possibility that your uncle isn't the only one being targeted, and the "gifts" for holidays/medical bills/a burned down house/a truck repair or whatever will all add up

If this is a scam, sending money will simply open the floodgates for yet more requests, each more inventive than the last

Aquamarine1029 · 13/02/2022 16:20

SCAM.

Pippin2028 · 13/02/2022 16:21

Is he called Simon Leviev?

Planetzero1 · 13/02/2022 16:25

Alarm bells ringing.

Btw the women on Tinder Swindler took out credit cards and loans to give him the money.

PerfectlyImperfectme · 13/02/2022 16:31

www.actionfraud.police.uk/a-z-of-fraud/dating-fraud

This website has info on this and a number to call & report / get advice on romance fraud / sham relationship