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DH's anyones model like this?

35 replies

baconeggnchips · 01/01/2008 11:42

Mine has either been in bed or sitting on the sofa most of the holidays unless I suggest otherwise. He would sit there and starve rather than get up and make himself food or get a brew on. I love him very much, I accepted a long time ago I wouldn't want to put up with anyone elses bad points, and should thank my lucky stars.
Would like to hear from other MN about their DH whether they are wonderful chaps, lazy slobs, downright bounders or any other known varients....................

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dooley1 · 01/01/2008 11:45

My dh infuraiates me
He will spend hours on his hobbies, moan at weekends because I want him to do family stuff or the dIY
He moans that i'm always nagging him but I feel tha it is his fault i have to nag.

scorpio1 · 01/01/2008 11:48

mine is loverrly (and he's not my dh for another 18 days)

I'm 25 weeks pg with db3 and he has treated me like a princess the whole time. He cooked xmas dinner and has made dinner most nights since, done dishes and i even caught him hoovering yesterday.

Although someimes he can be 'lazy' but it is mostly when he has been working particularly hard that day, and i just pick up the slack iyswim.

Quattrocento · 01/01/2008 11:49

Mine is fab about housework and stuff - works nonstop - harder than me if anything - does a cooked & nutritious breakfast for the DC's every day - does all the laundry - also has a full-time job - i have to make sure he doesn't do too much

FluffyMummy123 · 01/01/2008 11:50

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dooley1 · 01/01/2008 11:51

at 'i have to make sure he doesn't do too much '

GoodGollyMissMolly · 01/01/2008 11:53

Mine is wonderful; we share all the housework between us. He takes over completely with DD when he gets in from work, apart from the feeding as DD is bf. He runs around after me and brings me lovely snacks and drinks while I am bf'ing DD.

He has his annoying points, but don't they all. I suppose I have my annoying points too

nodder · 01/01/2008 11:57

I have been ill all over Xmas and DH has been really good. I have one gripe tho, he will ask DS to go get him a can of lager. He doesn't drink that much at all, but, I hate it. I go mad. In the end I said to him I realise that the sofa is surgically attached to your arse, but, if you ask ds to get you a lager again then the frying pan will be embedded in your head. I mean, I had offered to get them myself rather than he keep asking ds. (he asked him twice)

Emprexia · 01/01/2008 12:08

My DH is quite domestic and very helpful.. he does cook and clean and do laundry...etc

However, he martyrs himself every time he does something and wants me to say thank you for every tiny thing he's done like its a favour for me.. its not just for me, he's doing it for himself and DS.

I get no thanks, why should he expect it all the while?

claraenglish · 01/01/2008 12:09

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baconeggnchips · 01/01/2008 12:34

Quattrocentro - are you someones dh having a laugh with us?
Dooley - know what you mean about the hobbies, are they particularly pointless ones like my dh's?

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noddyholder · 01/01/2008 12:58

My dp does loads but tbh so do I and I think the fact that he's a he is irrelevant.Stop giving blokes who 'help'(?)medals/My old neighbout used to say 'I have done jane's hoovering'when talking about their house Idiot

PoinsettiaBouquets · 01/01/2008 13:05

Mines lovely. He made a list of things to 'mark out' about from 2007 and the top item was our relationship. Didn't know whether to smile or puke.

Quattrocento · 01/01/2008 17:17

Bacon - no not at all - the deal we have is that we both work so we both share the housework - DH has strong work ethic and tbh does more around the house than I do - he's good - and in a world where a lot of men still don't do as much as they maybe could - then think it is right to acknowledge his contribution.

If OHs are being a bit hopeless and helpless, why not make a deal whereby you make one NY resolution for one another?

COD - if floorboarding is a tradition on NY day - will he ever finish the job?

hercules1 · 01/01/2008 17:20

He's not good he just simply does half the work.

Quattrocento · 01/01/2008 17:24

Well isn't that good? There are a lot of unreconstructed men out there, I think.

ShakeysGirl · 01/01/2008 17:25

Mines extremly messy. He leaves plates everywhere including down the side of the bed. When hes tired hes like a little boy and needs tucking into bed and cuddles bless him.

hercules1 · 01/01/2008 17:26

Actually most of the time he time he does nearly all of it as he is a sahp.
Why does that make him good? I don't get called good when I do stuff?

Ledodgy · 01/01/2008 17:29

My dp does loads too but so do I and frankly if he didn't I would not put up with it.

hercules1 · 01/01/2008 17:30

I agree. I expect nothing else. I really couldnt do with having to mother a partner. yeuch!

Ledodgy · 01/01/2008 17:33

It's like my sil, she wanted mil to meet her in town a few weeks ago at 9am one Saturday morning so mil could look after her four children whilst she got her hair cut. On thinking about it she changed her mind and said 'hmm maybe it is too early I'll have to see if (insert name of father of said children and partner) will look after them! WTF!

madamez · 01/01/2008 17:45

It's not houw much housework/childcare an individual does that matters, it's whether his/her good points compensate for the bad ones. SO if your'e married to someone who hates housework but is always available to drive you and your friends and relatives everyewhere, a constant sympathetic ear, makes you laugh and is fab in bed, then you could probably overlook the slobbyness. However, someone who does f* all round the house but whines that your* standards are not high enough is probably not a keeper.

coby · 01/01/2008 17:52

Mine took our two DDs (3.6 and 20m)out on his own for the first time ever a few days ago. It was only 30 mins though.

He does do the cooking and make cups of tea but then he has to as DDs won't be left in the lounge alone with him because they feel they can't rely on him when they need support and that's really, really, really sad.

Stopping at this point as list of complaints is possibly endless tbh

FranSanDisco · 01/01/2008 17:54

You know what mine has more good than points and I wouldn't trade him for anyone else. It's hard being married to someone perfect but he tries his best

FranSanDisco · 01/01/2008 17:56

"bad" should be in there [not so perfect today due to lager quantities - hic]

rosalinda · 01/01/2008 18:46

My DH is a chef and as a consequence I never see him. He goes to work at 6.30 am and comes home after midnight. On his day off he is always tired. He was at work last night NYe and today and it is BORING! I can't really go out much with my friends cos I am 35 weeks with first dc and they are all young groovers.