Using sex for validation

[Stressesw1fe]

I think I’ve become addicted to sex, not actual sex because I’m not meeting these guys but sharing images and sexting.
I came out of an emotionally abusive relationship in nov 20 with the help of womans aid and my family.
I am doing really well in most areas of my life but i am craving love and validation. I have been chatting to guys on line and as soon as they are kind tome, I end up sharing photos with them 🙈
I felt low and want to value myself more but find it hard after the emotional abuse from my ex husband

Op, I was sexually abused a teen and also had a very violent relationship. I was absurdly addicted to sex, I've slept with all over 1000 people. Not because I particularly enjoyed sex but because I was starved of affection and love and it was worth the 15 minutes of sex to have somebody to cuddle me afterwards and tell me how gorgeous I was and how much they had enjoyed being with me. Then they would leave and I'd feel worse and do the same again to make me feel better. It didn't work.

You need to learn how to be nicer to yourself and accept yourself exactly how you are. You can learn how to compliment yourself and love yourself and this means to do not rely on anybody else for validation. Self validation is the most empowering thing I've ever experienced and I am absolutely rock solid in my sense of self and moral boundaries etc.

Look into getting some psychotherapy if you can afford it. Otherwise ask your Gp to refer you to your mental health team and see what they can offer you. This sort of addiction is pretty new but you can get help with it.

Thank you to everyone for your comments. I take positive from all of them. I think the problem I have is I am craving my old life when things were good (before the mask of the narcissist slipped).
I know that I am using the messages as a way of feeling needed…. I’m a nurturer and caring person by nature. I recognise that it isn’t healthy or a real relationship but at the time I get so caught up in it that it feels real.
I am going to take myself off these sites and look for some counselling on a 121 basis where I can be totally honest.
Thank you all x

All the best OP xx

@Stressesw1fe

I think I’ve become addicted to sex, not actual sex because I’m not meeting these guys but sharing images and sexting. I came out of an emotionally abusive relationship in nov 20 with the help of womans aid and my family. I am doing really well in most areas of my life but i am craving love and validation. I have been chatting to guys on line and as soon as they are kind tome, I end up sharing photos with them 🙈 I felt low and want to value myself more but find it hard after the emotional abuse from my ex husband

You think that providing men with wank material is love???

Did you actually mean sexual admiration?