Planning first date but live 3hrs apart am I mad

[Madreheaven]

Met a guy online, chats going really well and would like to meet up, but we live 3 hours apart.
If we lived closer it would be dinner and drinks on an evening and then go home but what do I do when there’s such a distance?
Meeting half way is an option…..should I just go for the afternoon? Evening? Stay? Separate rooms? Share a room?! 😬 Or just not bother at all🤦🏻‍♀️

Has anyone been in this position and can give me some advice please??

I met my 3 hours away now husband, halfway. We booked a b&b, separate rooms. We got married 3 years later. He’s my soul mate.

How long have you been chatting with him?

@RantyAunty

How long have you been chatting with him?

3.5 weeks

If it helps, I met DH online, lived 1.15 apart (not too bad) been married 4 years, together 7 , still live 1.15hr apart, it just works 😁 have two homes, shagged on the first date ...breaking all MNs rules in one go etc... I say go for it, meet halfway and see what happens.

I don’t see any anger
Just puzzled
You say you don’t want a relationship but you’re asking on a chat board about to how to do a date with a man who lives three hours away
You asked for advice so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hf way point is fine op. My friend and I do Birmingham / Liverpool meet ups - one travels to the other late morning, have lunch, do some sightseeing, do dinner and then catch trains home.

Are you video chat chatting or just messaging? Video chat can reveal a lot. If you are doing that and it’s going well I would meet halfway for lunch.

I think it can be really fun having a weekend relationship for a while. Then you either break up because things aren’t quite right… or someone eventually moves. I don’t see why not try unless neither of you would ever move. Good luck.

What do you see happening if he's great, and exactly what you're looking for? Not a serious relationship, you've said. Whatever it is, are you willing to continually travel 3 hours for it?

Meet halfway for lunch - sorted! And if it drifts, it will only drift so far as an afternoon coffee.

I also think some posters are coming across angry for no obvious reason. The snide comment about backtracking is one example. The OP has already said booking her own room. I think some people come on MN simply for the perverse pleasure in criticising others. I hope you found some useful advice on here anyway OP and enjoy your date!

should I just go for the afternoon? Evening? Stay? Separate rooms? Share a room?!

Can’t see any angry comments and the op did ask if she should share a room, it’s literally in the op.

I wouldn't for a guy I'd 'met' online.

Too much hassle for something that is likely to be very short lived.

Unless you are desperate for a drive and meal out / shag.

@gothisdilemma

I wouldn't for a guy I'd 'met' online.

Too much hassle for something that is likely to be very short lived.

Unless you are desperate for a drive and meal out / shag.

People from old are real people, same as everyone else. It might be the best drive out/meal/shag OP ever has for all you know.

There really is no spirit of adventure on here sometimes, it's utterly sad.