Is sexting and swapping nude photos cheating?

[donndo84]

Been with partner for 15 years and from the start made it clear That sex drive wast great. All was ok and fairly happy until I found chats on his iPad exchanging photos with other girls and he’s made up these fantasy lives with these people. I’m quite disgusted with him and although can’t imagine life without him how can I move on from this? Also worried he’s being scammed as these girls quite freely ask for money and wanting to know where he lives I’m beyond furious!

Yes it is cheating. And he is a ratbag you would be better off without.

Yes it is. What a bastard. Ditch him and get yourself checked out for stis. Sorry, op.

I would absolutely consider that cheating. Do you have joint finances? If so, I would seperate them immediately (as they are asking for money), whatever else you decide to do. Please leave him though; even if it is only sexting/pictures (which I doubt. It's probably physical too), it is monstrously disrespectful and shows that he cannot be trusted.

Yes it is cheating.
What do you want to happen? Do you need him to move out for a few days while you think about what you want to do?? It might be a good idea. 💐💐

I don’t know what I want. If he stops it all together then maybe there’s a chance but how do I know if he’s stopped it or just hiding it better. At this point I don’t think it’s meeting up in real life but who knows?

Yes

Yes, absolutely.

Yes it is cheating.

Yes
Sorry

Yes. Of course it is.

It's cheating but more importantly, has he put you at risk? If they're scammers and they might find out personal information about your life?

Thanks for your comments.xx I think I need to get my head round the consequences and see where we go from there.

Of course. Dump.

Yes

It's clearly cheating. Are you sure it's only virtual?

Yes.

@Donndo84

I don’t know what I want. If he stops it all together then maybe there’s a chance but how do I know if he’s stopped it or just hiding it better. At this point I don’t think it’s meeting up in real life but who knows?

There is a chance if he stops it? It's the fact that he has done it at all which should give you the kick up the bum to end this. He's an absolute idiot. Why do you want to be with someone like that?

@Donndo84

I don’t know what I want. If he stops it all together then maybe there’s a chance but how do I know if he’s stopped it or just hiding it better. At this point I don’t think it’s meeting up in real life but who knows?

Unfortunately you will never know if he's stopped. It's a massive breach of trust and you'll likely drive yourself mad trying to figure out if he's still up to it and/or trying to push yourself passed it. A member of the family stayed after something similar, on the face of it they are "happy", but everyone can see the distance between them under tge veneer. And him and his kids. Not that it always goes that way though.

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He’s definitely cheated
Ltb because you deserve to be happy

Yes, cheating
If he had the opportunity to meet for sex I’m pretty sure he would be there in a heartbeat
He may well have already I think these things get more as time goes on so if he has not actually shagged someone else yet he will soon else he would be watching porn and not actively interacting with others
Sorry I think time to move on

Would he be happy enough if you were sending nude pics and sexting other blokes? I suspect not. And yes, they could be scammers (at best).

Yes.

I'd be more upset about how gullible he is tbh (but then I don't do monogamy) If he hasn't done live calls with them they could very easily be 50 year old men. Or is this via Onlyfans or a similar platform?

When you read the chats, did he flat out say "no" to sending money? If not I'd be checking finances.

You will never know if he will stop and if you try to stay, you will tie yourself in knots constantly checking up on him.

Do you have children with him?

You can't trust him so the relationship is fucked. Don't let him continue to mess with your head.