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Reporting dating profile

36 replies

justasimplelife · 30/01/2022 20:10

Does anyone know what happens if you report a dating profile because they're married? It's my husband - nice - he's been reported. Will he be told?

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VioletOcean · 30/01/2022 20:29

What are you going to do? How bloody awful for you

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justasimplelife · 30/01/2022 20:38

I don't really know. I have a lovely life that I don't really want to change for me or the children. It's also a very busy life - I have no idea where to start. I'd like to pretend it isn't happening tbh.

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Milomonster · 30/01/2022 20:44

Gosh that’s a shock. No advice really but wishing you lots of strength. I caught my married friend on Bumble. I gave him hell (he said he was “just looking” and he lonely blah blah). It was a shock for me and so I can’t imagine what it’s like for you.Flowers

dopple · 30/01/2022 20:52

You are the one that decides what happens next, not sure if the dating app will take off a married man, they are probably more concerned about inappropriate pictures and content, besides he'll just create a new one or has numbers of women already in his phone, the damage is already done for you, sorry.

Jk24 · 30/01/2022 21:47

Have you confronted him op?

MrsBerthaRochester · 30/01/2022 21:49

They will not remove the profile but you probably wont be able to see it any longer. Burying your head in the sand wont work. Get a sti test and gather evidence.

BoodleBug51 · 30/01/2022 21:50

He'll just set another profile up on another site is what will happen.

Fucking hell, are you that desperate to keep a cheat in your life?

Maze76 · 30/01/2022 22:07

I’m so sorry OP, what an awful shock.
As much as you may want to pretend this isn’t happening, you know that’s not realistic.
Be brave, screen shot and confront him..

Sonaftersonafterson · 30/01/2022 23:34

Who cares if he gets told? That really shouldn't be the thing you're thinking about right now. Confront the cheating sh*tbag. You cant live in denial. How awful for you, I'm so sorry x

Gotthetshirt23 · 30/01/2022 23:41

I wouldn't report , more so watch his online time ? Screenshot etc so proof when you want to drop the bombshell.
Armed and ready !

BringOnTheOtherWorlders · 30/01/2022 23:53

Dating apps would go out of business if you booted all the married people off.

FatFucker · 31/01/2022 00:06

Wait? What?

You were on a dating app, saw your husband and reported him .....???

Enough4me · 31/01/2022 00:09

How did you find him?

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justasimplelife · 31/01/2022 00:10

@FatFucker

Wait? What?

You were on a dating app, saw your husband and reported him .....???

No.
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justasimplelife · 31/01/2022 00:11

Thank you all for your comments but unless you've been in this position I can promise you it's not that easy.

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Snorkmaidenn · 31/01/2022 00:22

If not so easy for you, you could catfish him and tell him you know his wife.
It might scare him.
Otherwise just confront the chesting bstard!

Lucia23 · 31/01/2022 01:15

Your life isn't lovely if this is the reality of it. Your husband is a cheat.

I hope you heed your self respect instead of pretending as normal.

lifeissweet · 31/01/2022 01:46

I get that it's a shock and the immediate reaction is to wish you didn't know, go into denial and try to cling on to your life as you know it.

Can you really do that long term, though. How are you going to feel every time he is on his phone, or has to work late, or goes out in the evening? Is this the life you really want?

Waferbiscuit · 31/01/2022 02:30

You'll get more responses if u change the title of your thread to 'I caught husband on dating website' !

altmember · 31/01/2022 02:51

They're probably more likely to take it down if you report it as identity theft. Presume you're sure that's not what it actually is? You should really be talking to your husband about this, it's obviously a bigger issue.

Pinkbonbon · 31/01/2022 05:48

Unless it was a woman who he lied to and said he wasn't married who reported it, they probably won't take it down.

But either way, he'll just create another profile.

Iwasonline · 31/01/2022 05:49

@justasimplelife if you aren't bothered can't you tell him you know and are happy with an open relationship as long as he stays sexually safe and that it doesn't impact your marriage? Im in an open relationship and it works fine

ElectraBlue · 31/01/2022 08:38

Have you kept a screenshot of this as proof?

Divorce him and get all you can from that cheating oaf...

Frankly once you know what he is really like I don't think you can just go back to your normal life. You know he is trying to cheat. Erasing one dating profile does not mean he will not do it again...

DaisyStPatience · 31/01/2022 08:46

I was in this position. I kept "forgiving" and trying to believe that this time would be the one that got through to him and made him change. All I was doing was banking the pain until eventually I'd had enough and had to deal with all that delayed pain in one big horrible dose. For a few days it hurt so much I thought I'd die. And then...I started living. No more waiting and wondering and searching and feeling sick all the time. I kept the nice life while he seems to be screwing up on every front (as far as I know). Seriously, nobody has the right to do this to you. You're better off on your own. I think cheating should be seem as a form of abuse. It's sociopathic to do that to someone you're meant to love. And so very easy to NOT do!

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justasimplelife · 31/01/2022 12:49

@Waferbiscuit

You'll get more responses if u change the title of your thread to 'I caught husband on dating website' !
But that wasn't what my post was about!
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