What is the sex drive of a man in his late 40s/50s and beyond like?

[Rosiestraws]

Can anyone advise on the above? I am considering getting back with an ex with whom we have always had a great sex life which I was happy with. However there is a 12 year age gap and I am trying to weigh up all the pros and cons of what it might be like if we ended up together forever! Sex is very important to me and I'm concerned that it might wane off in the future for him before it does for me.. Any thoughts/experiences or rough ideas of how often a man might want sex in that situation. (Assuming they currently want it a few times a week?)

I should add the person is very fit and healthy for their age - has run a huge amount of marathons/done iron mans etc in the past and no reason to think that would stop or slow down for many years to come..

Ps, yes I'm aware things might change for both of us re sex if/when we have children, but assuming that young children are not having an effect on things!

My FWB is 54 and has a fast recovery after DTD without medication. I dated another guy the same age who can't get an erection at all so that went nowhere.

@Cameleongirl

What is it about older men that you find attractive? I'm genuinely curious, as men closer to your own age will "grow up" at some point, while the older men will get older, IYSWIM.

I'm not being disparaging about age gap relationships, but as the physical aging/potentially declining sex drive seems to be important to you, you need to consider whether it's right for you. One of my friends (53) is married to a 68-year-old (69 this year. He's v. active, but I can't imagine this as my DH has just turned 50 and I'm 47. It feels as if we're at a different stage of life to them.

I do see what you mean and I have considered that myself... eventually all the men my age will grow into men I find more attractive. Hopefully. But surely it's better to be attracted to the person you're with now rather than hoping they'll mature/change into someone else in time that you find more attractive?!

If I did not end up back with this ex, I would indeed pursue someone closer to my age as I also have other concerns relating to the age gap as mentioned. There are obviously lots of other reasons why I am considering this ex as a partner again though. Having said that, my last partner was 40 and still seemed immature to me in many ways and seemed more like my age (5.5 year age gap) It of course depends very much on the man...

Generally I find older men more mature, have their s* together in the sense of knowing what they want from a partner and their life, they have life experience, can run their own home, they've had their fun times of travelling/getting drunk with mates and generally being kids and they teach me things in the sense of imparting wisdom and just generally be more of a "man" than the guys my age... I've always fancied "older" men... of course there will be some men my age also like that I'm sure but I have yet to find one!