How often do you see your parents?

[Mellowyellow222]

I have a difficult relationship with my parents - although they are totally oblivious to that fact!

I have noticed recently a lot of comments about how they hardly ever see me. I see them about once or twice a week. Which I think is a lot.

I went to their house on Friday night and stayed about three hours. They turned up at my door today unannounced for another visit. As they were leaving my mum made a barbed comment about how she can’t visit during the week because I am working.

They can and stayed did a full week at Christmas. The next weekend I called to visit and my mum made a comment about about how they hadn’t seen me in ages??

They are late 60s, in good health, drive, have local friends.

I thought once a week was pretty standard? It’s more than most of my friends visit their parents. I am early forties, single and work long hours. My sister lives close to them as well, has three children and also works long hours. She sees them probably twice a week.

Once or twice a year... I have a really good relationship with my parents but sadly they live at the other end of the country ( think England and Scotland). We message most days on messenger in a group chat with my sisters who live near them that's what keeps me sane.

It will be 4 years in April since I have seen my parents. They live in Canada and we have been unable to visit since Covid. Under normal circumstances we visit or they visit once a year for about 2 weeks!

Once or twice a year. Live opposite sides of the country.

Do speak on FaceTime (pretty much) every week.

I have a tricky relationship with mine, it's getting worse as they are getting older, more stubborn and refuse any help and support. They're house is a tip, they overeat and drink and don't see anyone else much at all anymore. It's quite sad to see and all offers of support are declined. I speak on the phone every day but only see them once a month ish.

Probably averages out to every 4-6 weeks, we don't live a million miles away (50 miles) but they have a thing about us staying all day (they are feeders!) and now with older children it's difficult for us to have full free days anymore.

I think it's sad, we'd happily pop round for a cup of tea more frequently, but it's all day or nothing.

HiGunny

@Kitkat151
I guess the opposite runs in your family from what you say..... so not seeing much of your children When they are older won’t be a big deal I guess

What a horrible thing to say. She could have a very different relationship with her own children.

Yes that is a really nasty thing to say. My relationship with my children couldn't be more different than the one with my parents. You clearly have no comprehension of any other situation than one where loads of you live on top of each other which yes I would find completely suffocating.

The OP asked how often we saw our parents and it was you that seemed agog that I could possibly be perfectly happy with an arrangement whereby I saw mine fairly infrequently. It works for us for our own reasons.