Is it ok to remain in a relationship that isn’t a forever one but is nice at the moment?

[Mymindisblown]

I have a feeling my current relationship is not going to be a forever one. He is quite independent and I don’t think he will be a move in settle down kind of person, well not at that the moment anyway.

I’m late 30’a have done children want no more. I have my own house so don’t need help with that, he has his own help.

Everything is great, he is a great person. Do I just continue to enjoy it for what and how long it is anyway?

@TossaCointoYerWitcha Bit of both I'd say!
When we first got together it was a plus, as I fancied a brief fling and wanted someone who wouldn't be disappointed if it ended after a couple of months 😂Then he turned out to be much more interesting than I'd expected. I wouldn't be broken if it ended - I've survived a divorce - but my clever plan has backfired a bit!
How about yours, @Mymindisblown - when you say he's independent, not the kind to settle down, what do you mean?

I think if both of you are on the same page it's totally fine. And almost certainly better than fine. If you'd said he'd like to get married at some point, then I'd say no as you'd probably be giving him false hope by staying together.

Well I’ve well and truly fucked it up as I’ve just found out I’m 2 weeks pregnant this afternoon at the almost ripe age of 39. Well mini pill what a waste of fucking time you were and so much for the perimenopause I was on.

I’m in shock. I hope he is ready, so much for is it ok to have a relationship if not a forever one, sure is that now one way or another..oh shit oh shit.

Yes! I am in that situation! I am so enjoying the moment (6 months) and he has opened my eyes to a whole new world admirer a lousy long marriage. I don’t think it will be forever but am do happy just to enjoy it for as long as it lasts .

Oh goodness OP! That was a bit of a curve ball! Hope you are ok.

@GiantSpider my life seems to be one giant curve ball. I’m in shock. I mean I love him a great deal he is a star of man and would make a fantastic father, he his so amazing with my daughter.

In a way I was sad because I didn’t think at my age and with health issues I could provide that and he is a little younger then me by 6 years. Looks like life has taken it out out of my hands. Oh shit. We haven’t even lived together or spend more then what 5 nights In a row together in the last 1.5years.

He has supported me through a great deal lately and always says I’m here for you I want to be with you…I bloody hope he means it!

Oh OP I really feel for you. Hope you have some good support irl too. Be kind to yourself x