Could do with advice please. I've been seeing a man for a few months, we were good friends for about a year beforehand. He's divorced with adult DC, I'm a single parent DC 13 and 10. We don't live near each other, but he works near here and we usually see each other once a week, speak every day.
It's tricky for me to get time as my DC don't see their DF, but we get together in the daytime on my day off (he's self employed so arranges his work round me), or my DM will babysit for an evening sometimes.
We are both very happy, neither have space for anything more full on, it suits us. However, any time we make plans to do more, something always comes up his end. So before xmas I went away on a course and he was meant to come with me - his XP had a nervous breakdown and he was supporting his DC. Okay. He asked me to go away next month but I couldn't get time off work, so we made plans to go away for a few days next week, I've got holiday from work. Now he's saying he can't go, his niece's DH is seriously ill and he needs to support her.
On one hand it feels like he's a nice guy, family is important to him and people lean on him for support. On the other I'm pissed off, it's so hard for me to get away and this is twice he's ducked out due to a family crisis last minute, I feel like I'm only a priority if nothing else is going on. Or is that unfair? I've lost perspective, so advice welcome please.