How to get chatting with one of the guys in the next office

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Work in a small estate, few offices with own buildings ect.

Seen a guy I like, how do I get chatting?
We've worked here a few years as seen them around, never spoken, would it be weird to start now? Like what do I do?

Can't ask to borrow anything as next doors office (different next door to the one with the guy) are friendly and can ask them anyway as chat to them often so would be weird to ask the other office with the guy.

Live life to the fullest and all 🙃

What would your move be?

Anyone ?

Go over shortly after the post has been and ask about a (fictitious) parcel which is marked as delivered to your office but you haven't had.

Be very friendly, smily, chatty and eave your name/number 'just in case'

Don’t waste anymore time! Borrow an item and take it back and flirt, flirt, flirt!!! As him about himself and feign interest if you have to. Find out if he is taken and if not pluck up the courage to ask him out for a coffee/drink. He may be as nervous and wanting a date as much as you are. 🤷‍♀️

@LaBelleSausage this sounds like a great idea because it's an excuse to leave my number however they may ask to see the proof in regards to the mystery parcel being there as they know it's not there.

Good idea but needs tweaking, somehow I need to leave my number or something!

@Paperdolly gosh I was i was this brave, I dont even know how to flirt! Tell me how!
I'm mid thirties and have been in a loooooong relationship, I've no idea how to navigate this, OLD is/can be shite so giving that a rest.

I need to take this risk but it has to be a super smooth operation.

If your office is large enough I would just say it's supposed to have been delivered to your place, but reception don't have it so you're doing the rounds and asking nearby offices in case of a mix up. Something along those lines.

You can even have something actually delivered to your office that day and show that as 'proof' if you're paranoid

Friend got a note left on her car. They've just had their 10th wedding anniversary. Does he drive to work?

Haha not paranoid, just don't want to make a myself look silly. We don't have reception.

I should just get a "we missed you card" from FedEx and put their number on it and say look I got this and show them. Maybe thats taking it too though...

@MaizeAmaze yes he does drive to work, so do I.

What would I say?
Bare in mind I see him and them as in the others that work day most days in and out the office.

He has a dog he brings to work too...

You'd probably have to also have a lengthy background story about what the parcel is and why it's not actually important but why you're tracking it down. Something perishable perhaps.

This may end up far too complicated! 😂

@LaBelleSausage I agree, I read the idea like this is great, this is it! But the more I thought about it the more I realised it has the potential to be really complicated. Thanks though, it's definitely got me thinking.

No idea what to say! I'm not great at these things!
But it's a route in without making up stories about missing parcels.
Do you chat with him when you see him, or just walk past? Is he definitely single??

Can you take some treats over for his dog?

Don’t get complicated. Promise yourself something nice after being brave but just ask him out!

Men are just as nervous and as grateful for attention as women. Stop wasting time!!! 💐

The dog is your clear in here OP. Ask to stroke the dog and say how much you love whatever breed it is. Dog people will always talk about their dogs! It's an easy in to find out if he has kids. Ask "is she good with kids ?". Sooooo many questions you could ask.

@MaizeAmaze I have no idea if he is single or not, ive3 never spoken to him, I've seen him looking thats all but that could just be like anyone just looking around in general.

The past few days I've got in my car to go home and he's in his a few metres away facing mine and I just want to say to him "hey fancy a ride"

One time I think I said hello to his dog and thats it.

@Paperdolly I absolutely agree. I'm an over thinker I need to know how I will do it, would I just go and knock the office door and say can I speak to, and then describe him and aks if he's there or do I wait to catch him walking and say hey are you single wanna go out for a coffee one lunch. But then if he's not I'll never live it down, I can't leave my job and everyone will know 😨

@Babyvenusplant I could do but that feels overkill, I'm sure my colleague gave them a dog bowl before so I cant even do that and say we have extras. I feel like I'm making excuses now.

@paname I will look to start a convo about the dog, seems the only normal way to speak to him without sounding strange or doing odd things. Thank you.

Tell him you’re considering getting a dog, ask after the breed, temperament etc…show the dog a lot of love and say how gorgeous it is, he’ll love that!

From then on its easy hellos, how was your weekend? Etc.

Cross post!

The car park sounds like the best place to engage with him! Going into the office etc might attract too much attention.

I’d see if I could spot him going to his car with the dog and maybe approach asking its name and how lovely he/she is etc. that should start the chat going. Best of luck and report back!

Definitely find a way of him ending up with your number. If you left a note re ‘post’ at his office reception would he definitely see it or are there loads of other people he works with there?

I'd style it out with the dog.

"Hi, I'm Paper. Sorry, I'm just coming over to meet your dog properly "

And then take it from there...

Use the dog! Say you can't resist the dog with a big smile! you can then sneakily find out if he's single indirectly by asking questions about the dog and his life and have a bit of a flirt at the same time. The dog makes this so much easier!