Is anyone still with their first ever partner?

[Kt6346]

I'm married to the only guy I've ever been with and I'm unhappy even though he is still in love with me. I'm not sure I have ever been as "in love" with him as he has been with me. I feel really jealous (and terrible) that I don't feel that way about him...

@Cocolapew

I was engaged and lived with someone for 4 years, no children, but left him at 24 and married his friend a year later He was devastated, I didn't leave him for anyone, I just didn't love him any more. He got married a few years later to his first girlfriend. Been with DH for 27 years

Wow! Did you have feelings for his friend when you were still together? 27 years! It was obviously the right decision 😊

Yes, been with DH since I was 19 and he 21.

We've had our rocky patches and definitely had periods when we've grown apart/separately but we've always come back round together.

We're entirely different people to who we were (Obviously! We were babies!) but we've always loved, supported and communicated with one another and are still going strong almost twenty years and two children later.

No I didn't have feelings for him, I knew him vaguely from the pub, him and my ex got friendlier after we broke up.
I bumped into him 7 months later and we were engaged 3 weeks later

Ah sorry, not sure why it didn't appear the first time!

It's hard to say if he's happier but a few months after we split he got together with someone he worked with and they're still together now years down the line and he seems happy.

The end of our relationship became a bit of a mess because we separated but had to continue living together for a time and I met someone else I liked (though didn't act on those feelings!) and he became convinced that was what the entire thing had been about, ignoring the fact I'd raised my unhappiness with him several times in the months and even years beforehand. So for a time things were quite strained between us but we put on a front at handovers for the sake of the kids. That all feels like a long time ago now though and we've both moved on and have a fairly amicable relationship.

@ButtercupBlue

Ah sorry, not sure why it didn't appear the first time!

It's hard to say if he's happier but a few months after we split he got together with someone he worked with and they're still together now years down the line and he seems happy.

The end of our relationship became a bit of a mess because we separated but had to continue living together for a time and I met someone else I liked (though didn't act on those feelings!) and he became convinced that was what the entire thing had been about, ignoring the fact I'd raised my unhappiness with him several times in the months and even years beforehand. So for a time things were quite strained between us but we put on a front at handovers for the sake of the kids. That all feels like a long time ago now though and we've both moved on and have a fairly amicable relationship.

Yeah I bet that was tricky, I think it always would be a bit tricky when it's not a mutual split. Did you get support from your family/friends etc? One thing I worry about is not having any if I did choose to split. I've talked to my mum about things but she thinks of my husband like a son so she obviously has an opinion and although she hasn't said this outright I know she'd think I was making a mistake. From the outside we have a "perfect" life so it would come as a shock to a lot of people I think.

@Cocolapew

No I didn't have feelings for him, I knew him vaguely from the pub, him and my ex got friendlier after we broke up. I bumped into him 7 months later and we were engaged 3 weeks later

Wow!! That's incredible! Sounds like you just knew instantly he was right for you!

Hello, sorry I did reply again but it seems to have disappeared. Not sure what the internet has against me replying to this thread!

The long and short of my post was that as far as I know, my ex is happy now. Our breakup was much messier than I'd hoped (though I don't think any break up is ever easy) but he met someone at work a few months after our split and they're still together now. We all get on amicably enough.