Am I wasting my time with this woman?

[Chewedupslippers]

I do some volunteering a few times per week and i've slowly come to have feelings with a fellow volunteer whom i've known for nearly 6 months now.

She has a boyfriend though, right from the start she often complained about him and made fun of him to me. Lately, as in the past few weeks, she complains about him every time we are together... about the same things: financial incompatibility, he's in debt and buys things for himself with her money, plays video games every evening, doesn't cook anymore, etc... she even told me she's thinking of breaking up with him due to the problems.

Now, i've read on the internet that if a woman shares relationship problems with a guy, then it's because he's been friendzoned by her... but she also complains to other people too, both men and women.

Fair enough.

However, aside from having great chemistry, she is always standing extremely close to me and touching me all over and doesn't mind if I touch her. Just recently, she started brushing her breast against me and yesterday she actually came up behind me to say something and pressed both breasts into my back for several seconds while whispering into my ear, she also brushed her hand against my bum a bit later on. She doesn't do this with any other volunteers.

Should I see where this goes or move on?

She can’t be that bad if she’s a volunteer

But yeah she’s shag and not relationship materials

And OP disappeared just like that!

With all due respect op, why on earth would you be interested in dating someone who doesn't ever have a nice thing to say about her own partner? I mean, what a turn off.

People who are healthy, don't spend their days slagging off people they are supposed to love to random men at work. Either she is some codependent, self worth lacking, needy-assed nightmare or she is toxic af. Because that's what toxic people do.

Why would you want to go near someone who badmouths their partner to anybody and everybody?
Decent people don't do that. Perhaps they might have a rant to close friends or family if they need to but they don't go around badmouthing them to everyone else.

She doesn't do this with any other volunteers
You don't know that!

@Pinkbonbon

With all due respect op, why on earth would you be interested in dating someone who doesn't ever have a nice thing to say about her own partner? I mean, what a turn off.

People who are healthy, don't spend their days slagging off people they are supposed to love to random men at work. Either she is some codependent, self worth lacking, needy-assed nightmare or she is toxic af. Because that's what toxic people do.

👏🏻

What use would this be? I could write a bunch of accusations about my boss and seal them all in dated envelopes going back to the last century. What would it prove?

It was something I was told to do by a police officer a few years ago, the reason being, if I had things written down and it became a police matter, a diary of events holds a lot more water than someone relying on memory alone. They are very proactive if there's written documentation linked to the specific complaint. It held me greatly in my personal case.

That's all.