White lie or morally reprehensible

[Sunday123456]

So over a drink my partner has decided to disclose the number of sexual relationships they have had in the past.
However they forgot that we had already had this conversation 13 years ago when we first started dating.
The indiscretion is that they have now doubled their account which could be questionable, depending on you moral high ground.
I have questioned my partner about said indiscretion and their reply was that they didn't want to be seen as overly promiscuous.
So is this a little white lie or morally reprehensible???

@gobbledygoook That honestly makes no sense to me. However, I respect that you’re just stating your position ( as opposed to saying how anyone else should feel), so okey dokey.

@Sunday123456

Thank you everyone for your opinions, this forum is the quickest, cheapest & most direct therapy x

This is so sad. Get some actual, irl help as opposed to tormenting your partner and then posting on here. Having a husband who is obsessing about ancient sexts and calling her actions ‘morally reprehensible’ is no way to live.

Ah ok so the @Sunday123456 is an Abusive partner/husband then?

Yes you are if you keep going off on her for stuff like this! You should be ashamed and you should go spend some money on actual therapy you tight shite!

I guess it depends on if the number matters and if you'd have made a different choice if you knew the truth. Morally reprehensible is still very strong tho

I told my OH I was 45 when we met and started dating so he was a bit surprised when I started talking about plans to celebrate my 50th when we'd been together for less than a year!

It's still a family joke more than 10 years later! :)

@99victoria 😂😂😂

It's a white lie and totally irrelevant to your relationship

I've lied to my current partner about this but only because after I left my previous relationship of 16 years of the most disgusting & cruel abuse I went completely devoid of emotions and feelings & slept with every man I came across ( plz no judgement )
When my current partner asked a few month into our relationship I knew he wasn't very experienced and the number he gave was less than I'd done on a fortnight holiday. I couldn't give him a real number anyway because I actually don't know how many people I've had sex with.

Abusers like the OP do serious damage to their partners.

He's just come here for validation on his views. He isn't interested in anyone's opinions or in changing his behaviour because he doesn't see his partner as worth changing for. She's a possession not a real human being as far as he's concerned.

She should conform to all his standards or she's committing serious and 'morally reprehensible' crimes against him and his image of what Women should be

Bet you part of her knew what his reaction would be which is why she white lied about it.

Really awful behaviour. Red bunting and flags are waving like it's a parade.

I'd be pissed off at being lied to but really it isn't any of my business so shouldn't have asked.

I've never asked my partners how many people they have slept with. I'm interested in their past relationships and what was good and bad and why they ended.

I haven't read all the comments (just the first page), but have you considered that your partner was being accurate and truthful both times and that he/she had forgotten that they had given the previous accounting?

That'd be the worse case scenario...

I think the fact that you’re asking shows why they changed the number in the first place.