To have never heard

[onewayoranother1]

My fiancé accidentally called me via WhatsApp from his Apple Watch. He was having a conversation with his male colleague about a time a few years ago at their Christmas party where a female colleague had invited him back to hers. He said how it would have been the perfect opportunity and how he wishes now that he would have. I feel so hurt by this conversation. AIBU to be upset about what my DP said.

@billy1966

OP, Listen to your gut.

You are TOO GOOD for this waster.

Simple as that.

This is a gift

This!!! Get out now. You'll not regret it. Not one bit xxx

And that's a conversation you did hear, I can't imagine it's the first time he's ever said anything like that. He doesn't sound trustworthy at all.

He sounds absolutely awful.

If you marry him you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness. You will feel as though you are walking on eggshells. What's your financial situation like? How easy will it be to separate from him?

@HollowTalk

He sounds absolutely awful.

If you marry him you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness. You will feel as though you are walking on eggshells. What's your financial situation like? How easy will it be to separate from him?

Luckily it's my home. We share savings but they can easily be split. I just can't help but think out of all the conversations in the world I could have heard I heard that one and I think it was fate that I heard it

Don't risk your home and your heart

Oh shit, lpease make sure to get yourself your own savings account and transfer you share of the money over ASAP op. Never ever share a savings account with someone who has shown themselves to in untrustworthy in any way (tbh, dont share an account with anyone for anything except perhaps one you both pay into for bllls, if you can help it).

He does not sound like a nice man op and if you leave him he could very easily clean out your bank account and there would be nothing you could do as it is shared. Dont kid yourself that he isn't capable of that because he most certainly is and it happens so commonly to women on here.

Say nothing to him yet and first thing tomorrow go to your bank, open your account and put your share in. You can always transfer more back to him later if there is a disagreement to the amount. But seriously op, don't take any risks. I wouldn't put it past him to be the spiteful kind.

Hi op

You are a unique position of seeing the car crash before it happens, you have time to swerve it and carry on unharmed ish

This is one of those moments where fate if you believe in it has thrown you a life line, I think you would be wise to heed it.

The disrespect and gas lighting is breath taking, that was the real him make no mistake.

Don't share your home with him, it might cost you half if you divorce him in the future. Dump his arse and expect better in the future for yourself

What a vile pig.
He has no respect for you.
Disgusting excuse for a man.

It would be over for me. How would you trust him again...even on his stag night etc. Ugh

I just can't help but think out of all the conversations in the world I could have heard I heard that one and I think it was fate that I heard it

I definitely think it was fate

Imagine marrying this guy and he cheats again and you have to go through all the hassle of a divorce etc. after dealing with all the pain of not feeling secure in your relationship and all the while you'll be kicking yourself asking why on earth you married him when you had got that sign not to!

From what you say about finding things out every few months I would assume he's never fully come clean or habitually lies.

This isn't looking good OP sorry.

My God your updates!! He’s telling you you’re unreasonable. He’s gaslighting you. Call it divine intervention, a message from the unknown or just down right luck... this is your get out pass. Don’t marry this total cockwomble.

If he at all regretted having cheated on you in the past, the conversation would have been “she invited me back home. It was the perfect opportunity, but I know how much I hurt oneway when I cheated before and could never do that to her again”

U less there are good financial reasons and you can take him to the cleaners etc if you marry this man then you are an utter fool.

A man who actually brags about being unfaithful rather than not admitting it to actual friends is not a decent human.

Don't be an idiot. Do not marry this man.

Ugh, "the perfect opportunity" my arse!

He is horribly shallow OP, what a blessing you overheard this conversation!

Pretty sure one day you will post it on another "glitches in the matrix" thread as evidence that someone/something was looking out for you.

Follow your gut, and your logic, and your common sense, and all the other things that this red flag alerts you to.

OP if you marry him he’s legally entitled to 50/50 split of assets. And debt to. Everything will be amalgamated and starting point for division of assets will be 50/50.

*debt too

Honestly a man who can talk so disrespectful to another person about you and women is not a man to marry.