Saying stuff like this to child…

[Leoleo1]

If your oh said stuff like this to your child how would you react or feel-
Don’t get married
Woman only want to spend your money
Women bleed you dry

He's your OH?. Why is your relationship bar this low exactly?.

I would not want to be with such a person who has such views. Such types also hate women, ALL of them.

Very, very worrying. It's misogynistic hate speech. And he spreading his beliefs to someone vulnerable
Shame on him.

I wouldn't be with him with such awful views.

I'd leave, that's how I'd react

I would ask
Him to stop immediately. If the reaction is less than apologetic, I would get away from that person. If already divorced/separated I would be tempted to try and reduce contact. Also although I am completely against talking badly about other parent, I would explain the opposite and give examples of good healthy relationships

Tell him to pack his bags and fuck off!

If he doesn't like it, he knows where the door is☺️misogynistic twat

Ye i did tell him to stop its not not he can do what he wants, get married etc…
I said don’t say stuff like that to him, he said i will il tell him never to get married

It’s about money he’s planning on giving him either a house or a large deposit once he’s older

Why does he feel you bled him dry and took all his money?

Which do you want more for your son, a respectful attitude towards women and the capacity to form loving relationships, or a house/deposit?

If you tolerate this behaviour on the basis that your partner might (and it's a might, not a guarantee!) give money to your child, then you're teaching your child that your partner is right, and money is the most important thing.

Why is he saying this?

@Leoleo1

Ye i did tell him to stop its not not he can do what he wants, get married etc… I said don’t say stuff like that to him, he said i will il tell him never to get married

It’s about money he’s planning on giving him either a house or a large deposit once he’s older

He'd be better keeping his money and his destructive attitude.

I would stay away from anyone who expresses such unacceptable, misogynist views.

This is not what your kid should hear as well.

It is a sign of someone who has deep rooted issues with women and sooner or later this will also affect your relationship.

I bet he is the type of guy who complains about 'crazy exes'...

No I haven’t bled him dry
He did spend a lot over Christmas but it was his choice and it was on stuff we could have done without (meals out, take aways, leisurely activities)
I spend most of my space cash on the dc hobbies & clothes etc…
I think what triggered the money comment was because I didn’t want to eat out and pay due to waiting to be paid
He earns like 5x what i do per month

I think you have bigger problems here..
He sounds like a misogynist.

So much hate out there.

A colleague who I thought was a friend has warned his son to always use a condom, and, yes, honestly, I kid you not, tie it off and take it with you, to avoid anyone stealing your sperm and hitting you with a claim for child support.

I take it he is not the father?

I would not have a man like this around my child. No way. Part of my role as mother is to help my sons to truly understand what is means to see men and women, and girls and boys as equals.

Nor would I want a man like that as a partner.

Hes his father yes

@FinallyHere

So much hate out there.

A colleague who I thought was a friend has warned his son to always use a condom, and, yes, honestly, I kid you not, tie it off and take it with you, to avoid anyone stealing your sperm and hitting you with a claim for child support.

I don’t think that’s such terrible advice!

@Leoleo1

No I haven’t bled him dry He did spend a lot over Christmas but it was his choice and it was on stuff we could have done without (meals out, take aways, leisurely activities) I spend most of my space cash on the dc hobbies & clothes etc… I think what triggered the money comment was because I didn’t want to eat out and pay due to waiting to be paid He earns like 5x what i do per month

Fair enough. So he’s not talking about you. Perhaps he genuinely means to give good advice to your son but is framing it poorly. Could you suggest to him that instead of telling your DC to avoid unpleasant women, frame it more that he should try to seek out good relationships, and point to you or other people he knows who are in good relationships as examples of what to look for? A big like, instead of simply telling a child “Don’t get killed on the road”, leaving the child afraid and uncertain of all roads, say instead, “Look on both sides for cars,” and “cross at a safe place - see where they’re marked”.

Perhaps he genuinely means to give good advice to your son but is framing it poorly

You what now?
Spreading misogynistic hate speech is "giving good advice" is it @Coronawireless?

Leo - I would react by

1. dumping the twat
2. privately letting DS know that daddy says silly things sometimes

I could not live with that attitude, & I would be doing everything in my power to minimise the poisonous effect of his father on my son.

I would leave someone who hated women and was training my child to hate them too.

We have more than enough misogynists in the world. We don't need any more

I’d be shocked if my partner said that. He’d have to be pretty thick to expect otherwise - you’re literally his partner so of course you’re who he’s talking about. Even my 6 year old knows the ‘girls smell, girls can’t, run away from the girls’ stuff in his peer group is bullshit. I’m a girl and he fucking loves me! So when his best friend says the above he doesn’t join in as he already knows it’s not on.

I wouldnt be with anyone who would spread such a dislike for a certain group of people. Its really not good for children to be taught to think like this.

Its also not good that you are in a relationship with someone with such terrible views.

I Just couldn't be around that and i certainly couldn't subject my child to it.