Hi,
I just need some advice about my male friend.
I met him on dating site and to be honest in those days a lot was going on in my life. I really wasn't interested in him like that. I gave him the brush off because I was into someone else. But I had gone back to the site and message him but he said he was getting married. Then I actually bumped into him and met him for the first at a bus stop. I did mention about getting married and it was clear something wasn't right there.
I did invite him to my flat because he told me they separated but I got the truth out of him and they were still together. Nothing happened we danced, maybe kissed before I got the truth out of him. Yes it wasn't good then he left because someone called.
After this I didn't see him for awhile and think I kind of cut him off for a while. I just couldn't get involved with him.
So then he messaged me and we got talking again. Then I was visiting family and going carnival and he message he was there. We met up but went to go round with him then thought I can't and said I wasn't feeling well and told him go and enjoy carnival with his friends. Then we never spoke for awhile or maybe he would message honestly can't remember. Until the next carnival again he message to me and this time I started seeing someone so told him I couldn't.
From this point onwards he did message me a lot and had added him on a social site. We spoke on there a lot and during lockdown we did grow closer and he said we are friends. I thought he not a bad guy really.
By this point I was in a relationship and he was opening up and talking about his wife, child.
He use to message like nearly every day we talk and I stupidly told him where I worked. Then I started worrying when he would come to my work. He brought his child the first time and then he came alone. We would speak on this site and he would say things would would make me feel he still wanted. Like he saw me with my husband and said he wanted to say hi but he couldn't because I was with him like we were having an affair. I was like you could of said hi my husband not the jealous type etc.
From this point I couldn't tell him when I worked. He would message and respond to photos and say a lot of stuff. I didn't like some stuff he would say. But to be honest I actually got closer to him myself didn't realize he probably the only guy who just been there and I have ignored him and he not a bad guy but we are friends.
For awhile he really backed off and he would message still a bit. Once time he said he went to check me at my work and I wasn't there so I just put Lol.
I tried pushing my feelings and say we are only friends nothing more. Maybe we are just friends but I do miss talking to him.
I don't fancy him but he has grown on me. I would never want an affair or anything like like that. I wonder if he is waiting for my husband and I to split or I just don't know. I have wondered if the reason why I feel close to him is because he was in my life when I was going through a lot.
I wonder if cutting him off is best because he is apart of my past.
He said to me we are friends he gave us that title. He use to drive me crazy so he was just some guy.
He has been there for me through some difficult times although we don't meet up.
I feel drawn to him a bit more.
He remembers so much about me more than I remember about him.
Is this a friendship or what?
I really don't want to mess this friendship up. It's just I never had any man like this in my life. It's like he always watching and always there to listen.
Any advice