As 1 person replied he lied to you and dont love you, he most probably does love and cherish you, if he didnt he would have been long gone, im on my 2nd marriage, going back to the late 80s when i 1st started dating my ex wife you couldnt be gay or bi, it was still looked on as disgusting by most, guys couldnt come out like thay can now, i was scared to loose my family and friends, it was hard to meet anyone as you didnt know who would like you and who would kick the hell out of you, he probably wanted you to know but scared of your reaction, knowing back then he would have been outed if he told you or you wouldnt have dated you, try standing in his shoes for 1 day, knowing you liked guys and girls, it was the worst place to be back then, he never lied unless he told you he wasnt interested in men or never slept with 1, i used to always say to my ex ive never been with another woman, my ex was the liar every time she got held up at work when she was parked up somewhere in a car with a guy from work shagging, im not saying you have cheated or lied to your husband, i know you love him and want to stay with him or you wouldnt be looking for advice, i so hope you can work it out, it wont be easy but marriage is for life where im concerned, you love each other its just finding that way to deal with it, i know it took many years to come out to you but at least you know now, he probably would have told you years ago but think of reasons why he didnt, have you ever made any homophobic comments?, i never told my parents cos of comments they said when a gay person on tv said something, like the 1st gay kiss on eastenders my mum went mad, saying how disgusting it was, dont want anyone like that around them, its easy done, support him, you need to let him do his thing, talk to him about safe sex, make sure he is playing safe, tho he probably says he is and might not be, loads of fab guys say safe sex only and when it comes to it they say they dont want to wear a condom, what ever you do dont worry about Aids, its no longer a death sentence, maybe now you know help him find 1 regular partner, then they both get checked and no risk of anything coming back to you then, i do hope you get this sorted,