Hello
I need some relationship advice… am I being unreasonable?
I have been in a relationship with a guy for approximately 2 years. We both have kids from a previous relationship. My daughter who is 18 and his son is 4. We live together with my daughter and have his son half of the week. I love his son like my own. My daughter was diagnosed with complex mental health problems last year. My partner does not understand mental health despite explaining that not everyone feels the same mentally. He constantly making comments to me about her lacking motivation to get washed and dressed, her only eating late at night, her disrupted sleeping habits and that she is unsure what she wants to do career wise. She is a little lost at the moment but is still managing to attend college.
Most of the time my partner and I have a fantastic relationship but he does say some things to upset me sometimes such as calling me by his ex wife’s name, saying I need to go on a diet and what foods I should cut out. He is not empathic in the slightest and when we argue he turns everything round as if it’s my fault. It’s so frustrating. We recently had an argument because I mentioned I wanted to have kids and marriage but he doesn’t as he had a bad experience with his ex wife. I accepted his decision and put my needs and wants on the back burner because I loved him and decided to stay and carry on through life having no more kids or marriage. Recently my daughter put something in the bin by accident which he needed. When he found out he said to me she is absolute retard. This has really upset me. I can put up with him saying things to me but not about my daughter. Do I leave him or try and sort this out?