Something DH can do that I just can't.

[Dontmentionfringe]

I realised this Christmas that for all I criticise him DH can do something I just can't. His ability to patiently get involved in small talk from my elderly relations for long periods is astonishing. Same stories over and over. Hour after hour. Never thanked him til today. Whats your Dh's special skill?

Lovely thread which has made me appreciate my lovely husband as I've sat here thinking about all his good points. He is definitely the kindest man I have ever met and has infinite patience, where I have none. If I have a problem he will basically do everything in his power to try and make it go away. He is a fixer. If I'm unhappy, he wants to fix it. He's a good un.

What a nice thread. Mine knows a little something about everywhere/ everything. Meets someone from an obscure island most people have never heard of, knows some little titbit about their politics or history, and it makes people feel special and respected. I often stand there meeting new people thinking ‘I want to connect with you but I literally have nothing to say’. He hates small talk too but has this skill of making speaking to anyone interesting.

@beenwhereyouare

He makes me laugh. Even when I'm angry or injured or sick, he says the most outrageous things- I start snickering and immediately feel better.

Also, he's very generous and giving in bed. He makes sure I have a good time first, every time. For 42 years. 😍

Now if I could just get him to empty his pockets before I do a load.😉

I feel you with emptying pockets. What is it that they don't understand?

I've taken to quizzing both him & my daughters before they go in the machine as they all conveniently have an off switch when it comes to this, haha.

He always seems to know what I need. I spend a lot of time at the hospital with dd2 and without fail he's sorted my bag without me even realising. He puts in my favourite sweets for me to eat at the 2am lull, back up phone battery is always in and charged, teabags etc in a little zip bag and he puts in a note. Nothing amazing just something like "it'll be ok - I love you" or "don't worry I have remembered ds2 needs a Christmas jumper tomorrow."
After being a totally single mum for many years it's something of a revelation.

There’s very little that he cannot fix, or DIY he can’t do.

When we were having ivf, he did the injections for me like it was his day job, despite being terrified of needles and complying with every stage of my utterly ridiculous and unreasonable completely normal and reasonable steps to prepare myself for the next dose. He didn’t laugh once as I wrapped a tshirt round my eyes and cried about how unfair the world is.

He’s turning in to a grumpy old man who complains all the time, but that has its advantages when I need a complaint put in and I’m too chicken to do it myself.

@Immunetypegoblin

I'm glad you all are so happy, genuinely. However this thread makes me selfishly sad as I'm struggling to find any such depth of feeling for mine.... he does make me a cup of tea way more often than I make him one, tbf, and without complaint.

Same. My husband is lovely. But he's not practical in the slightest. Can't even change a light bulb. Called me in a panic the other day as our electric tripped. He's not a talker either.

I feel like I'm missing out

He fully takes onboard any feedback I give him. I once got in a strop and told him that my dad would never have let my mum use his car without first filling it up with petrol. Ever since, there has always been a full tank whenever I need to drive somewhere. I realise I am a fully grown adult totally capable of going to a petrol station

He’s also an excellent driver/parker and didn’t even raise an eyebrow when I managed to roll the car forward into a fence at the weekend when I meant to reverse.

He’s extremely tidy which I need in a partner. If he opens a cupboard and it’s not totally in order, he can’t close the door without organising it. People laugh when they open our food cupboards and everything is aligned and labelled but I love it.

He’s the hardest working person I know. He’s self-employed and will frequently start work at 6am on the weekend in order to get a couple of hours work in while I sleep before whatever we have planned for the day.

All clearing up after any cooking I do, (I love cooking and I hate hate hate cleaning up after myself), all dishwasher stuff, laundry, fixes my glasses, the boiler, does my hot water bottles for the bed, buys me the next book in a series he knows I love when he can see I’m on the last few pages. He also can do small talk, but so can I thank God. Mainly learned from him!

Yell. He doesn’t. Which is excellent for me as I come from a family of yellers ,I was always tiptoeing around trying not to set off the yellers. Peace at last..

My husband gets rid of spiders.. Any size and he doesn't kill them he will gently put them outside.. Im petrified of spiders.. He also makes a great cup of tea which is even more astonishing as he doesn't even drink tea.. Or any hot drinks for thar matter but somehow makes the perfect brew. He also is amazing at reversing the car at a decent speed (for example when we meet a vehicle down a country lane) an area I'm totally useless in.. He does that arm over the back of the passenger seat thing which I must admit I find rather sexy.. He's terrified of heights though to the point he can't even stand on a chair to change a ligbtbulb, can't iron and snores very loudly so it balances out nicely I think.. At 32 weeks pregnant with our 3rd I'll add on that he is incredible and supportive during the labour of our other 2 and I have no doubt he will be again this time.

@HappenstanceMarmite

So now I know where all the good men are. Explains dating sites lack of them… 😭

Found mine on Bumble, he has his faults but there are some decent ones about.

Mine doesn’t have any. I do everything. He’s awesome at falling asleep within 5 minutes of eating. He’s awesome at screaming in my face being nasty. He’s awesome at being the shittiest father ever (not a father to my dd luckily but has 3 kids he begrudges paying CM for as in his eyes his ex and her husband already have to light and heat their home
So the kids make no difference)

Oh and he’s scared of any bugs.. insects.. spiders.. heights.. won’t take out bins as they smell.. won’t take things to tip for me as they too smell. He’s amazing at wrapping himself entirely in my king size duvet and yelling and hitting me if I get into bed (hours after him as I need to clean the kitchen first and get my daughters school uniform ready and my work uniform sorted)

Cheating. I LTB.

His ability to figure broken or not working shit out and then fix it. He's not a trained repairman but he just has a knack of poking around in things, figuring out which part isn't working and then finding or jury-rigging a new part. My washer and dryer are from 1988 and still work great because of his 'tinkering' with them. He's mended plumbing, small appliances, computer problems, little things on cars and toys. The only things he won't touch are electrical wiring (except putting in new plugs & switches) and 'new' car engines & major car systems (because they're all computer components).

Similar, he has patience for all my family.
Good at opening jars.
Wants to make the home look nice.

Finding things! Not just in real life but also online. I can spend weeks or months looking for a very specific item on eBay, then he goes and has a quick search and finds one! Every single time!
Only today I was saying there was a bag I liked but I had dithered for too long whether to get it and now it was out of stock everywhere. I have been looking every couple of days for a couple of weeks now. He goes to their website, one now back in stock so orders it. I literally checked the site on Sunday and nothing.

Oh and anagrams. He's an absolute genius at them. Not as masculine as being able to weld a pizza shovel from scratch in five minutes like the PP's DP who was apparently on secondment from the A Team. But handy for pub quizzes, and will be invaluable if I ever need rescuing from the sort of crap B movie serial killer who leaves cryptic clues for the detective.

My OH is wonderful in the kitchen, especially making superb meals out of the leftovers. Nothing in our house is ever wasted, he even made Brussels sprouts pakora recently which tasted great (I hate boiled sprouts)

He has an amazing sense of direction whilst I have none whatsoever.

Although he’s “climbed the ranks”, he’s a salesman at heart and could sell ice to eskimos. The amount of things I don’t really want that I’ve agreed to us buying (mainly cars) is ridiculous just because he has the gift of convincing me without me realising what he’s doing.

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we usually live together in a shared house (both 23)

he is a great cook, intelligent, practical and a problem solver. he is so polite, and so ridiculous and funny, at the right times. he makes me feel so loved and beautiful and secure. good with children and old people and animals. buys thoughtful gifts and only picks restaurants based on how much vegetarian choice will be available for me.

I am so unreasonable and anxious at times and he is always steadfastly patient and loving and brings me back down to earth. thank you to OP for giving me somewhere to say it! :-)

I was going to say "cunnilingus" but perhaps not in the spirit of the thread ...

So, apart from that, he can:

Find Things.
Fix Things.
Make Things.
Paint Things.
Draw Things.
Design Things.
Build Things.
Mow Things.
Cook Things.
Bake Things.
Decorate Things.

He is a very practical man .

DIY. He's unreal. Can fix just about anything around the house- including broken dishwasher, washing machine, fridges and even (at times) iPhones!

Mine does all the cooking, cleaning, dishes, food shopping, gardening, making beds and drives me anywhere. He also pays for everything and never comments on credit card bills. His children and grandchildren love him very much. He can’t do any diy to save his life and this is my job.

Some of these have brought a tear to my eye. Some lovely ones around. I'm a little bit jealous