Be Kind - Advice Needed

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To cut a long story short, my partner has been caught by myself messaging random women and escorts - I found out by looking at his phone. Last time it happened and I confessed I knew he said if he ever finds out I have access to his phone etc I can explain to our DD why she hasn't got a dad in her life. I know what a ! Anyway, over Xmas whilst I've been in a different room he's at it again.... what do I do? Confess I've looked again? I don't want this anymore - I've put up with too much, but at the same time I'm scared to leave.

What would you do?

I met my partner a week before I turned 37. There's plenty of time for you to meet someone else, don't put up with someone awful because you're frightened to be single.

Of course you're not too old to start again. But please focus on getting to a strong, happy place for you and your DD rather than thinking about the next relationship.

The alternative is that you stay, he continues to act like a entitled prick and your self-esteem disappears altogether. Believe me, it will only get worse.

Nice men don't message escorts and other women looking for kicks. Nice men don't threaten their wives / GFs with leaving. Nice men don't use their children as emotional blackmail. Your DP is not a nice man.