Husband saying strange things

[LostenFrance]

A while ago my husband said to me that most women would want two men at the same time (in a sexual sense). He said this DTD so I assumed it was just new sex-talk and let it go. But then afterwards he said it again. Like as in starting a proper conversation about it. I said 'er no', but he insisted that they would. So then I asked him how he would know what most women want and he just said 'they just do'.

He's also said - at a different time - that most women don't receive flowers from their husbands. Again, I queried how he would know about most women, and he insisted that time as well that most women just don't receive flowers from their husbands.

What would you think of this?

@CamsPaisleyCuffs

Tell him both the window cleaner and the postman are up for it, so if he can make himself scarce on Saturday night that would be great 👍

😂

@LuckyAmy1986

I would assume he has been chatting to another woman and these are her opinions

That's what I first thought when he made the comment about the flowers! His remark came up within the context of suggesting to me what a wonderful husband he was. 'How many men do you think buy their wives flowers?' Me: 'I don't know'. Him: 'Not many'. At which point I got baffled because he was asserting some sort of omniscience and I don't know how he could think he knows what most men do! I thought that someone else (a woman?) must have commented to him how unusual he is to buy me flowers (which is occasional, nor regular flowers) because not many men do, and he's taken that as the truth. I even wondered if he had given another woman some flowers for some reason and that her response might have indicated this sort of surprised and extreme gratitude, and he got to thinking that maybe I didn't appreciate enough.

@fallfallfall

i'd be asking him to see the dr. regarding "brain changes" possible stroke or aneurysm. barring any organic changes i'd be out the door.

I already considered this and suggested to him on more than one occasion to go to the doctor. He never has though.

Good response @CamsPaisleyCuffs 😆

@LostenFrance

I've just thought to myself that at the time it felt to me like he was chatting with a new hook-up/acquaintance, rather than with me - his wife. Like, imparting his worldly wisdom on someone new.

That was my first thought too.

@iklboo

Tell him most men want to be pegged with a 14 inch dildo the same circumference as a can of beans and see how on board he is with that.

🤣

Yuk.

Just starting making up your own weird facts. "Most men really enjoy experimenting with other men" or "Most husbands actually only want to have sex once a month" and just insist it's equally true.

The flower comment was him managing down your expectations.

The comment about other men...either he wants a threesome OR he is cheating on you and trying to make it seem like you would happily have a second man on the go too, given the choice (projection).

@LostenFrance

I've thought before that he might have bi-curious fantasies. Ick.

what other things made you think that?

You are being groomed and de-romanced.

Actually just snort laughed

It really is like he forgot me as me and just lumped 'me' (as in, the person in front of him) in with generic 'women'. Like, he's been talking to so many women that he's lost sight of who I am.

These are imaginary women in his head mostly.

Abusive men say things like this. Other women have more sex etc.

Are you happy with him?

@YNK

How kind of him to mansplain that you are not womaning correctly. How would you manage without his patient coaching OP?

Another sex obsessed weirdo.

Bi-curious
Porn
Mid-life crisis
Needs to see a doctor

@CamsPaisleyCuffs

Tell him both the window cleaner and the postman are up for it, so if he can make himself scarce on Saturday night that would be great 👍

😂😂😂

An enormous bunch of flowers is delivered to your home at breakfast time.

The card says 'you were amazing. Love, the guys xxx'

You know what, darling? You were so right about the two men 🤩 ... but so wrong about the flowers! More coffee?'

OK it would be a bad idea to do IRL. But SUCH FUN to imagine!

The "most women" statements are just plain stupid. Unless it's backed up with some factual source.

Subjectively, I'd think that most of my married friends do sometimes get flowers for birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, etc. It's like chocolate, wine and so on. So I expect he's wrong on that.

I'd be OK with two men at the same time. But it would be need to be Jim Morrison from 1968 and Jimmy Page from 1972. If that could be arranged I'd be very very interested. I'd git it mu best shot However, I'd need to check with DH first to see how he feels about it.

With respect to data, here is an interesting survey:
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/11/threesomes-men-women-sex-psychology

A threesome would certainly be a fantasy of mine, and I'd only be interested in two males.

DH buying me flowers? YES for birthday, but I buy them every few weeks myself.

The 'most women' statements aren't only plain stupid, they don't have any context either IYSWIM. It's like he's telling me something new that he's found out and which he doesn't think I know.

I'm wondering how many women he'd need to talk to about threesomes before he comes to the conclusion that it's 'most women'. Likewise with the flowers.

The flowers statement makes no sense because when I think of the male partner of couples we know, I think it's highly likely they would buy their partners flowers. So he's not basing his opinion on men that he knows, so it must be something a woman has said to him?

Whatever it is, it's a bloody insult to my intelligence.

"most women want" = "I want"
"Most women don't" = "I don't want to"

There are some exceptions but I wouldn't say all that commonly.

Your husband is a creepy fuckwit. I'd be reevaluating this marriage.

Most women would LTB