Husband saying strange things

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A while ago my husband said to me that most women would want two men at the same time (in a sexual sense). He said this DTD so I assumed it was just new sex-talk and let it go. But then afterwards he said it again. Like as in starting a proper conversation about it. I said 'er no', but he insisted that they would. So then I asked him how he would know what most women want and he just said 'they just do'.

He's also said - at a different time - that most women don't receive flowers from their husbands. Again, I queried how he would know about most women, and he insisted that time as well that most women just don't receive flowers from their husbands.

What would you think of this?

@iklboo

Tell him most men want to be pegged with a 14 inch dildo the same circumference as a can of beans and see how on board he is with that.

I wouldn't automatically jump to cheating but I'd assume he wanted to experiment from the first comment - especially as he's said it more than once.
He said it 'in the moment' and then in normal conversations to gauge your feelings both times.
It might be he's already dipped his toe online or whatever if you're not confident of his fidelity.

What context was the flowers thing said in? Does he buy you flowers?

Ask him 'are you angling to bring another man in to our bed?'.

Tell him he doesn't know what 'most women' want. He may have formed an idea from pornography, but of course that isn't real. That you, as a woman, have a much better idea, but even you don't know what most most women want. And that even if every other women wanted something, if you don't it's irrelevant.

When did he become the arbiter of what women want?

I'd be rethinking this relationship, he sounds a real turd.

I'd show him this thread

I wonder if that's 'most women' in the same way as kids say 'every one else's parents'. I agree with others that this is something that he would like and he's trying to shame you into going along with it.

When DH and I were having some relationship difficulties he would say things like "most wives would ..." (nothing sex related though it was more that he felt that I should devote my life to making his life easier). I told him that he was probably right but I was not and never would be one of those wives so his choice was to make do with me or go and find a better wife.

I think you could tell him something similar, that he's not married to most women, he's married to you and you are not and never will be interested in having a threesome. So he can either leave and find a new partner who is interested in it or he can never mention it again, the choice is his.

The flowers are neither here nor there, I buy my own when I fancy them as I'm a florist's daughter and therefore picky about them and DH can't judge the quality well.

How long have you been married? I would have been inclined to ask him since when did he become such an expert and given him an earful.

And then suggested that a bunch of flowers arriving in the household imminently might be a rather good idea.......

@iklboo

Tell him most men want to be pegged with a 14 inch dildo the same circumference as a can of beans and see how on board he is with that.

careful... his eyes might light up!!!

His next words of wisdom will be all women want sex with another woman whilst the husband is watching!

I would assume he has been chatting to another woman and these are her opinions

Who are these ‘Women’?
And how does he go from women wanting two men at the same time, to husbands not buying flowers for their wives?
I don’t know, has he met with a couple and taken part in a threesome? And is it this couples marriage that is the basis for the flowers comment?

How come he is suddenly an authority on what 'most women' want, despite not being one himself, and refusing to listen to you, an actual woman, when you tell him he's got it wrong.

He wants to be in bed with you and another man.

He does not want to bother with little things you might like.

Ewwww tell him to f Off !

He probably gets his opinions from porn sadly

As previous posters have said, he’s manipulating you by introducing the idea of having another man join in during sex and he’s training you not to expect flowers. What a prize. I bet he manipulates you into doing/expecting other things you’re uncomfortable with too.

Maybe you could suggest that the two of you do a straw poll amongst the women you know to see if he's right. Start with his mother!

Yuk, porn talk 100%

He sounds like a bit of a prat tbh.

Start bringing 'most men..' statements into your conversations with him. Most men bring their wives a cup of tea in bed every Sunday morning. Most men give their wives oral every time. Insist that 'they just do' if he asks any questions.

Ugh! How odd. I wouldn't and I highly doubt that 'most' women would.

The vast majority of men do send their wives flowers. I know because I'm a florist and have this discussion with literally everyone I meet.

Tell him both the window cleaner and the postman are up for it, so if he can make himself scarce on Saturday night that would be great 👍

i'd be asking him to see the dr. regarding "brain changes" possible stroke or aneurysm.

barring any organic changes i'd be out the door.

The flowers are irrelevant and you’re overthinking it.

The threesome thing sounds as if it’s one of his fantasies, especially if he said it during sex.

Nothing annoys me more when people try and peer pressure someone by saying ‘most people do this’.

Next time he says it be very open and honest with him and say it very clearly that that’s up to them what they do but it’s not something you will ever be doing.

Start bringing 'most men..' statements into your conversations with him. Most men bring their wives a cup of tea in bed every Sunday morning. Most men give their wives oral every time. Insist that 'they just do' if he asks any questions.

Great idea!!