For some context:
DH and I have been having a rough time the last 2 months. To spare all the details, we are at a point where we’re having a hard time forgiving eachother for things, but also know we want to still try to work it out. I’m the one that’s having the hardest time, and for good reasons, but I have been working on it.
Anyways, I noticed last night in the Christmas stocking stuffer pile, there was a book with a bow and my name on it.
“9 steps to heal your resentment and heal your marriage”.
It should have had a giant card on it too that said “merry Christmas, here’s a book to fix your problem”, that would have really drove the point home. 🙄
I immediately got so angry, but then just felt like crying.
I got him some gifts centered around us, like a fun conversation game, and a box of date night ideas. I thought this was more appropriate. But a book like that?
This isn’t even about being ungrateful (we never do anything big for eachother on Christmas, it’s for the kids, I know everything else he’s gotten me already and vice versa), it’s the THOUGHT behind it. To me, there’s nothing sweet about it, he’s going to give me a book where he’s basically telling me I’m too resentful and here’s how to fix it (how about don’t lie about things and I won’t be?).
I just feel like there could have been gentler ways to get the point across, like the way I put thought into the things I got.
Am I being too knit picky?
I think I just wanted one day to not remind us of the shit going on..