My husband has 2 wonderful children who we see half of the week . My husband and I now have a baby.
My husband wanted me and his ex to be friends. We met once and it went really well. The second time I felt she was really inappropriate- she asked me if I was on birth control ! She went on in great detail about how even though ‘they ‘ were never married - my now husband had proposed to her at a fancy restaurant. I felt it was abit agreesive . I told my husband and this led to him
Confronting her and then it all got awkward . So from then on I was very wary .
After that , we all tried to be civil and over the last few years me and ex have had a polite and friendly relationship . I send cards and chocolates for her birthday. We spend time together for the children’s birthdays. We have taken the baby over to meet his ex .
The ex is heavily involved with my husbands family due to the kids -
So she is at a lot of family functions I go to and we chat and are friendly . I will see her at least once a month .
The issue is my husband wants
us to be friends . He always suggests we go in when we drop the kids off. He has suggested she and I go out .
Today he said - let’s take the baby in when I drop the kids off . I just don’t want too. I feel it is fake and I don’t want to be fake .
I’m Happy to be polite and friendly when I have to see her but I don’t want to just drop in . surely she doesn’t want me going around her house either ? I don’t want to go there and feel so so awkward . I’m sure she must feel awkward.
I don’t understand why my husband can’t get this is just so awkward???? He says- she really likes you and wants to get to know you. She isn’t really my type of person and I find her quite manipulative and am vary of her . But then I get paranoid and think should I be making More of an effort to go in and see her ? Do the children think I’m rude ?
Please help ?