Don't know whether to stay with boyfriend

[welovetea]

I am asking for some honest advice. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. My friends and family have noticed what can be seen as controlling behaviour from him, an example being I had my Christmas work night out a few weeks ago and he got annoyed because I was going, asked that I didn't come back late and I felt I had to reassure him I wasn't drinking, he then ended up going out with his friends coincidentally to the pub next door. We live together and recently it has felt like I can't even FaceTime my mum or sisters as I don't want to annoy him, last night whilst on the phone to my mum I went out the room and came back in and he was lying naked on the bed and I felt as if he expected me to end the call with mum to have sex with him. We then ended up arguing and he ended up saying 'you need to have a good reason to not want to have sex'. I felt disgusted after he said this but don't want to tell my family about it because I do love him. He has also previously stated he doesn't like it when I wear makeup, and last Christmas i was bought a leather coat and he didn't like it when I wore it because 'I looked too nice in it'. I do love him but I'm just in two minds what to do. I am 19 is 18. Thanks in advance.

OP...Run ...Run as fast and as safely as you can. Speaking from experience it will get so much worse and it's not worth it. You are so young and have your entire life ahead of you! Do not fall into his trap. Men who love you are not threatened by you spending time with your friends and family or wearing make up or certain type of clothes. If your friends and family are picking up on his controlling ways ... Listen to them! They love you and want the best for you. If you have to hide the things he does from your family... Ask yourself why? He might beg, cry and profess his love for you or try and guilt you. Just let your family know you want to leave, pack your bags and then let him know. You need to have a fast exit. Good luck and stay safe!

You are young, no need to be tied to a controlling, possibly narcissistic man. Cut your loses and go live your life! This is the time for carefree fun.. before life gets too serious and becomes about mortgages, bill, careers etc. Please don’t waste your youth on this man.. you have plenty of time to find the person to settle down with- if that’s what you want.

Run. Now. This will not get better. You might feel you love him now but you only love the nice part he's pretended to be. Once you're at a safe distance you'll look back and wonder what the hell you ever saw in this pathetic controlling prick.

He is jealous, insecure and trying to control what you do, say and wear. It's very interesting to me because I had a man (boy) like that when I was 19, and wasted 5 years with him getting progressively more unbearable.

Be aware - don't mistake this behaviour for "love" - it isn't love. He sees you as a possession - a trophy and a sex object.
Also - men like this are often shagging other women behind your back- often if you have a tiff or he gets drunk, he will get emotional and have a one nighter. You can't trust them around your own female friends either.
The best thing you could do is finish it, but perhaps you have low self esteem.

Whatever you do DON'T GET PREGNANT.