Hurtful comments

[YellowLolly1]

Been together 8 years, 2 children together. Earlier on, dp showed me a photo of myself that came up on his Facebook memories. The photo was taken a few months into the relationship. Since then, I have put weight on, but not an enormous amount. Anyway, these are the comments that followed.
“How much money would you pay to look like that again”
“If you get back to that size we’ll have a big beautiful wedding” (we’re not even engaged)
Then a few other things that I can’t really remember. Gosh these sound even worse written down. Of course I know this is wrong but he has said that it doesn’t matter to him what I look like, he’ll always love me. I didn’t really say much back, I didn’t know what to say. But I’ve just been in the bath and cried. He always manages to get into my head that he’s innocent and doesn’t mean to upset me and that I take things the wrong way and then I end up believing him. Our children are sleeping over at their nana’s tonight and I feel as if he has ruined our child free night

Well we all know how you can lose a shit load of weight....
I have gained weight post emcs and heart scare... And dh's cooking!! If he commented I would challenge him to a diet each then win...
Then Ltb.

Your body has carried and nurtured his two babies. Your body is beautiful and amazing and a lot cleverer than his and don't let anyone tell you otherwise 💕💕. Has he not aged a jot then over the years?

Show him a photo of a huge peni$ and ask him how much he'd pay to have one of those.

He's an a$$hole.

Show him a photo of a huge peni$ and ask him how much he'd pay to have one of those.

Yeah, tell him "When you get to that size, we'll have a big, beautiful wedding."

Oh he sounds delightful!
Buy him some polos and say that his dick's that small that he could fuck one and still have room to wiggle it about ....

@samwitwicky @LightSpeeds @TwistedOlivers love those

He was deliberately cruel. Nasty and cruel. He will deny that was his intention but that was the fact. He was cruel.

Doesn't really matter why. Bottom line is , do you want to spend/waste the rest of your life with a man who is capable of cruelty?

[quote YellowLolly1]**@samwitwicky* @LightSpeeds* @TwistedOlivers love those[/quote]
Seriously, try it.

His reaction will tell you whether or not to stay with this man.

I don’t think men ever say things like this “innocently” or out of clumsiness. I think it’s always intended and with a clear purpose. His purpose is to get you to lose weight.

I would LTB but I know it’s easier said than done. My relationship is far, far deeper than anything your boyfriend seems capable of. Whilst DH and I still fancy each other and everything, looks are not our main priority and we connect on a much deeper level. We’ve both gained and lost weight at various points and it hasn’t impacted our relationship at all. I wouldn’t be settling down with someone who I didn’t share this level of connection with.

Is he an Adonis?

He sounds very very sexist and shallow;

"Women are absolutely desperate to be slim".
"Women are desperate to be married, marriage is a reward to women for being slim, attractive etc".

He always manages to get into my head that he’s innocent and doesn’t mean to upset me and that I take things the wrong way and then I end up believing him.

What else has he said?

Let's not sink to small penis remarks. Horrible sexist nasty.

You need to tell him how hurt you. Awful remarks from him. You have had 2 kids!!

So he says horrible things to you then tells you it’s your fault you’re upset because you’ve taken it the “wrong way” etc?

You must realise this is really nasty behaviour?

He insults you and undermines your self esteem because he is deeply insecure and unhappy with himself. He needs you to feel shit about yourself so he can feel better.

He’s a nasty little prick and you need to put him in his place. Do not let him twist and worm his way out of it. Don’t let him pretend he didn’t mean it.

Stick to your guns and give him a shock.

“I am happy with my body but if you’re not then you can fuck off and find someone else, but you probably won’t be able to because women don’t generally like pathetic, sexist little men. Especially those who are so deeply insecure that they have to bring others down so they feel better”.

Then leave him to sit in his twisted little misery by himself. Arsehole!

He sounds an utter cunt

Don't stoop to penis insults. He can't do anything about the size of his cock, his height, his age, or his race

If he's shit in bed then by all means go to town on that

Is he Brad Pitt?

It's his fault and he knows what he's doing. You dont say 'if you get back to that size then we will...(something good which is clearly a 'reward') without it being a clear indicator that he thinks it's a good idea. And it certainly implies that he doesn't want to marry you with the body you've currently got. Which is really bloody offensive. I hate it when people say something that the vast majority of people would find upsetting then accuse them of being over sensitive when they get upset

He’s a dick
Tell him you’d say no anyway

Well he obviously knows what he is doing and I'm betting he intended to ruin your child free evening.

Out of curiosity, is he now sat watching what he wants to see on tv whilst you're upstairs avoiding him?

Motive asside, he is an ass. Good thing you aren't married. Although, two kids and 8 years in its pretty obvious he has no intention to marry you. And it seems he likes to dangle it over you too.

Just pack him up and ship him out. He is the only weight you need to lose. Kids dont need to see their mum staying with a man who treats her that way.

Thinks he's a funny guy doesn't he.

Marry someone else.

I say LTB!
But they do say that fat women give the sweetest ride😚
So It's sour lovin from now on for Mr Curmudgeon

Thinks he's a funny guy doesn't he.

Marry someone else.

This!!

He’s an utter prick! Spiteful one too!

Start sharing pics of really fit men and comment on them. Or comment on fit men who are also wealthy and able to treat their wives to a life of luxury.

And then get yourself to the gym every night whilst he looks after the kids and cooks/does housework. Tell him sweetly that he is right, you want to look like you did. And then relax, have fun, get your confidence up and leave the wanker.

I really hope you're smart enough to never marry this arsehole.

@MrBigTiger

Is he Brad Pitt?

Brad Pitt - rhyming slang

So actually works on both accounts tbh

How nasty. It sounds like this is something he does often?
I have 2 kids as well and have put weight on over the years. So has DH but we would never make nasty comments to each other. Not what supportive partners do.
Maybe as others have suggested play him at his own game .