Blocked list

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Bit of background- married for 9 years, 3 DC.

I was using DH phone (he knew) but I went on Facebook messenger and looked at his blocked list. He had loads of random women blocked. The last one was blocked in the middle of November so it's recent.

No messages or anything to be worried about but I just can't understand why he would have these women blocked unless he was trying to hide his profile from them.

Any advice? I can't stop thinking about it!!

Following OP as I've experienced this also.

Perhaps you could ask him and then try and gage his reaction?

I also have loads blocked. I went through a spate of having lots of random messages from strangers. All blocked

@LadyExpecting93
I was thinking about just mentioning it but I'm worried that once I say something it might create an issue that we don't have all because of Facebook.

I just can't think of any normal reason you would block people ?

My blocked list is a mile long, I couldn't even say who is on it. I block people from some workplaces as soon as they come as as a suggestion as a matter of course, I block some clients too as just don't need the hassle of them adding me and me leaving it hanging or rejecting. My block list means absolutely nothing untoward.

@maddy68 @Dancingontheceiling1
Thank you for your messages!
I did think that some people might block if they receive a friend request they don't want to accept without looking rude.

Would you have any reason to believe this is under hand or deceitful?

If not. Leave well alone.

If some one went through my phone they would find all sorts of things

Archived WhatsApp messages
Blocked Facebook messages
Blocked people on WhatsApp / Facebook

Random numbers saved
Texts from drunk ex's which I've ignored
Screen shots of messages etc

My other half could pull himself apart if he went through it all. But I'm very happy with him and wouldn't for a second consider ducking that up for any one.

I also have a big blocked list, most recently full of random people (likely fake profiles) sending me spam messages.

I also block random people, either for sending random friend requests from obvious fave profiles or because they post some pretty offensive stuff I just don't want to look at. Lately I'm blocking a lot of rabid conspiracy theorists.

Thank you all for your messages!
I really appreciate it.

@sleepyshiftworker No I have no reason to think so which is why I don't want to mention it or make it an issue as we are very happy. That's very true. I'm sure everyone would have things on their phone that seem odd to a partner!

If you're concerned check out the profiles he has blocked. Are they connected to him in any way? Do they look fake?

I have well over 100 people blocked on FB. Lots are randoms who contacted me that I don't know. It's no big deal.

Have a look at the people he has blocked.

Hmm. ALL women?

Can you look at their profiles?

I'd be a bit suspicious

I would be suspicious. If they are real women maybe he is using a dating app and then blocks anyone whom he meets on the app as a precaution so that they can’t search/friend him?

Hi OP. I too have a blocked list which on Instagram consists of mainly men. These are randoms that have sought me out that I know nothing of to say “hi darling” or send me random links I have no interest in. I am aware of scammers so block anyone I have no connection with. If my partner were to check my phone it might look odd.

Could you perhaps start a general conversation saying you had to block a person on Facebook who contacted you out of nowhere and ask out of curiosity if it had ever happened to him. Surely if he answers honestly you can rest easy.

What was the reason you looked in the first place as it wouldn’t enter my head to?

There are many fake profiles of "women" who try to scam men by offering pics etc. Check out their profiles and see if it looks like that. It's pretty common.

I have a huge block list. Many seem to find my via my ‘professional’ accounts such as LinkedIn and then find me trying to get hold of me.

As an employer, I block everybody I employ, so that they can't even attempt to try and send me a friend request, or try and look up my profile. My DP gets random friend requests from complete strangers, which are either spam accounts or scammers. I don't think you have anything to worry about

Probably just scammers/bots contacting him out of the blue.

I’m the most paranoid person out there but I’d still consider this a non issue I think. Unless they were actual people, in which case I’d want to know a bit more. But if they’re all the kind of fake profiles that send “hi sexy, wanna hook up” type messages then it’s probably totally innocent. Fingers crossed.

I get random friend requests, messages and follower requests on FB & Insta. I instantly block them. They’re often from women (Bots) too.

I wouldn’t be suspicious of it.

Sorry to go against the grain here, but my ex blocked women he had affairs with, to stop them coming across me/me coming across them. He told them he didn't have Facebook. I accessed his Facebook one day and found them all and talked to some. I'd had suspicions about some and he did admit that's why he'd blocked them later. There were loads.

I didn't have a look at the profiles that were blocked, wish I did now to see if they looked fake.

@Hope478 if I'm completely honest, that was my original fear and that's why I can't stop thinking about it.

But I have no other reason to be suspicious, he isn't sneaky or anything!

I just don't know how to bring it up in a conversation to see how he reacts without seeming strange!!! "What are the reasons you block people on your Facebook?" 🙈

Could also be blocking pre-selected adult services workers for unblocking at any such later time those services are required?

You say he's not sneaky - why did you feel the need to look at his blocked list?