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Blocked list

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user87653848 · 17/12/2021 09:07

Bit of background- married for 9 years, 3 DC.

I was using DH phone (he knew) but I went on Facebook messenger and looked at his blocked list. He had loads of random women blocked. The last one was blocked in the middle of November so it's recent.

No messages or anything to be worried about but I just can't understand why he would have these women blocked unless he was trying to hide his profile from them.

Any advice? I can't stop thinking about it!!

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GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 17/12/2021 14:25

My dh often get friends requests off random, scantly clad women so he declines and blocks them.

Yummypumpkin · 17/12/2021 14:25

Is it only or very largely women?

Were they a range of ages or the same sort of age?

I'm afraid this doesn't look at all good to me if they are really all women of around, say, 30.

I would definitely be looking those women up. And I would definitely be focusing on what they have in common.

Pp saying they block 100s is fine...but there will be a mix of sexes, age, race etc

Cloudfrost · 17/12/2021 14:27

I think the bigger question here is..why were you checking his blocked contacts on FB? Even if u had permission to use his phone he obviously did not give you permission to check that or u wouldn't have an issue to bring it up to him.

I would be seriously cross if someone was checking my blocked list and questioning me about it...

flamedancer · 17/12/2021 14:28

Guy feelings are usually right

flamedancer · 17/12/2021 14:28

Gut

ChargingBuck · 17/12/2021 14:39

I was thinking about just mentioning it but I'm worried that once I say something it might create an issue that we don't have all because of Facebook.

You've been together for a decade, yet can't ask a simple question without being worried it will create an issue?

If that's true, you have bigger issues than a blocked list.
You should be able to talk about anything with your spouse. Maturely, reasonably, & without anyone making "issues".

What do you think would happen if you just asked him about it?

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user87653848 · 17/12/2021 14:56

Long story short, I was being a nosy women!! He doesn't speak to his father at all. Massive fall out many years ago and they don't communicate. We don't talk about him or discuss him, touchy subject. He told me recently, his fathers girlfriend messaged him regarding meeting our children and he replied to say no chance. I just wanted to find her name from his blocked list to have a stalk of her Facebook.

I only have a couple of blocked people on mine so I completely freaked when the list was so long but some of the replies on here do make sense why he could have blocked so many people.

@ChargingBuck I just don't know how to ask or mention it without it seeming I am accusing. We have no problems so would hate for this to create one just because of social media

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Cas112 · 17/12/2021 15:32

You need to get on and see if the profiles look fake or not, or see if they look like genuine women who he could have been messaging and blocked after he's finished having his fun with them

girlmom21 · 17/12/2021 15:47

If you trust him just ask him?

TurnUpTurnip · 17/12/2021 23:04

Like others I have loads of random people blocked as I use to random messages off people so I blocked them

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