I did the right thing didn't I?

[HelpINeeedSomebody]

Just having a mini crisis in the confidence of my decision making.
Met what I thought was a lovely man about 3 weeks ago- had several dates where we got on really well. Loved his personality/values/looks and things seemed quite positive. He was really keen - probably too keen but I decided to try and go with it and not be too jaded.

Anyway Saturday I met him at work and he was drunk and I didn't like the person he was. He also drove home drunk and I'm not talking maybe a pint over the limit but lots.

I told him that was it for me - it's a big deal and he'd admitted to me he'd already been charged for drunk driving back when he was younger so shows he doesn't learn. He keeps saying it was only one mistake but I think it's a huge one to do.

I've made the right decision to end things haven't I? He keeps saying that I obviously didn't feel the way he does about me for me to end it so abruptly and I've said that at only 3 weeks in we're still learning things about each other and either of us would be entitled to end it at any point?!

I just feel like the last couple of men I've had relationships with haven't worked out due to different reasons and I'm starting to doubt my own judgement.

100% the right thing.

You've absolutely made the right decision imho.

Definitely sonenthe right thing. Could have been you in that car. He could have seriously hurt someone. It's good you've drawn your line in the sand now

“One mistake” my arse.

He regularly drink drives. You did right in ending it.

Absolute dealbreaker, get rid of him OP.

This would be a dealbreaker for me, even in a long term relationship probably. Let him go and move on.

To do anything else would have reflected very, very badly on you.

He’s playing with lives and doesn’t appear to give a shit. Not a nice guy.

Yes you did the right thing and bloody well done. "Thank you next!"

You’re brilliant. And have done the right thing.

You did the right thing - people who drink and drive are morally bankrupt

100% the right thing
Good for you

Drunk driving is an absolute dealbreaker.

Your judgement just saved you from going anywhere further with an absolute twat. Give yourself a break. And who wants to be guilt tripped into a relationship? Ignore him. It was an unforgivable thing he did, I couldn't get past it.

Drinking and driving is totally irresponsible. He’s a fool.

You 100% did the right thing.
He sounds like a grade 1 wanker.
Plenty of those available.
You deserve better

Well done! You saw a massive warning sign and listened to your gut, I dont think you will regret letting this one go.

He keeps saying that I obviously didn't feel the way he does about me for me to end it so abruptly

He says that like it’s a bad thing? At three weeks in, nobody should be so besotted that finding out the other person has an alcohol problem (and it sounds like an unpleasant drunk to boot?) isn’t a dealbreaker.

He sounds worse and worse the more you write.

Absolutely. What a POS!! 😡🤬
I hate drunk drivers, there is no excuse and it's unforgivable.

Why the fuck did you not report that ?
Also did you get in the car?
Can’t believe you even need a second opinion with this bell end

You say your doubting your judgement sounds like you have pretty good judgement to me, clear boundaries and what you find acceptable within a person....keep it up xx don't settle for anything less that what you want/need xx

PS I would do the same in your situation drink/drugs massive no no in my book. Maybe he also need to think about the impact on his behaviour but that's his issue not yours xx

Absolutely! I would have done the exact same thing.

Yep, you did the right thing. But what job does he do where he can get drunk?

100% the right thing to do.

If this was a genuine one off lapse in judgement from someone who has a normal attitude towards drink driving, then he would understand why you felt this way. He doesn't, which to me suggests it happens regularly, so he is a liar/ in denial about his drinking as well as someone who endangers lives. For clarity, even if it is a one off, you're entirely in the right.

Definitely the right thing to do x

He is an arsehole. How dare he tell you how you should feel!

He keeps saying that I obviously didn't feel the way he does about me for me to end it so abruptly
Correct. How can you possibly have any respect for someone so reckless.

He sounds entitled and selfish. You are well rid.