If he starts messages with 'hi lovely'...

[ColdHandsColdFeetWarmHeart]

... how do I start mine?

He calls me 'lovely' and 'sweetheart' which I definitely like, but can't think of anything to reply with - what affectionate terms can you use for a man?

I'm 50+ and so out of practice with this!

@MsWaffle

My best mate calls me 'Sugar Tits' He's the only one that can get away with it tho

Yep, I get sugar tits from DP, although it's now tinsel tits - seasonal innit. Mostly though he's Yogi and I'm Boo Boo , or he's handsome and I'm beautiful with the odd babe thrown in

I'd go for sugarplum.

I picked up "lovely" in Wales a couple of decades ago. First time I heard it it felt wrong but it quickly grew on me. I'm glad it's spread.

Oooh you could call him cariad. Hey cariad!

Sweet cheeks

And I call him Cuntface ....

Young Padawan
Yoda
Dora The Explorer/Ignorer/Implorer/Informer/Reformer/Transformer
Tiger
Zelda
You there!

If anyone called me sausage we’d be having strong words 😂😂😂

I think a 'Hello you' is oddly very very intimate. And hot. From the right person.

@Wiredforsound Ha ha, I read that as "strong winds"

@HaveringWavering horse?

@TellingBone

Oy fuckface

Or maybe "yo bitch"

I've never been called 'lovely' as a term of endearment by a man. I've been called a lot of things by men but never that I've only ever known women to use this as a term of endearment. That's besides the point...

Terms you could use:
Handsome
Gorgeous
Babes/babe
Baby
Darling
Sweetheart/sweetie
My man
Sugar

I am sure some of those terms you will prefer and some you will hate. Use whichever ones you like and seem fitting

Fucking dickhead.

You’re welcome.

Some of these made me giggle.

Not everyone is a cunt trying to lovebomb.

OP, if you're not comfortable with it yet, don't use a specific term just because. Have fun!

Darling and love for later, maybe. Babe not so much :-)

I use Duckie a lot

I use "my lover".

'Fartface'?
'Gitface'?

....I hate sucky stuff!

I use 'Hey baby' mainly, and Mr occassionally.

@Themummilly

Run.

He can't use your actual name?!?

If DP used my name I’d wonder what I did wrong and why he was mad 😊

When we are messing around we call each other ‘mate’ or ‘pal’ I don’t know why I just find it funny 😊

I think 'treacle' is your best bet

Or hot stuff maybe

Enjoy your lovely new beau

@Nanny0gg

When did 'Lovely' become a Thing?

It's an adjective!

Thank you! It goes right through me. I have a wonderful friend whom I love dearly who has taken this up over the last couple of years and I don't have the heart to tell her to JUST STOP, NOW!

Hi big boy

@blueshoes

Also, be aware of lovebombing where someone comes on too strong too soon but is hiding their true self for until you are hooked.

Wow. All these shopkeepers who I thought were just used to calling everyone 'love' have been lovebombing me along. How did I miss the red flags?!

My mother always advised calling men darling, "because then you don't have to remember the names." My mother didn't always give advice that should be followed, mind you.

I'm not keen on petnames, but it turns out from the right person, I will let all sorts pass with barely a sarcastic comment at all.

My H often started messages with "Hi babe".