For years 'D'h has made me feel like I'm going mad as he'll deny he's said certain things, usually in the heat of a row, or accused me of things such as losing a key when later he'll find it somewhere he put it (this type of thing happens quite a lot). It does make me feel like I'm going mad, and at times I wonder if he's emotionally abusive, but I think he just
does it because he's too insecure to admit he's done or said certain things (or forgotten, as in the case of the key), or because he genuinely believes in that moment in time that he didn't say something or mean something which I believe he did say or mean. I mean it's not intentionally to manipulate me, but it does really get to me to the point I often feel like I wish we could record conversations because what I remember and what he remembers can be so different. We've been married for 18 years and it's really got to me over the years, increasingly so I think. I don't think he does it on purpose but is it still abuse or just really bad communication?