Maybe this is how it is. I told dh I feel everything is on the surface. Conversations revolve around kids, housework, money, work, household admin etc. nothing deeper. No life goals, long term plans, dreams etc. We went out last night & I was hoping we could go deeper. We are married 16 years, 3 kids aged 13-8. I told him today what I just mentioned here & I know he was a bit hurt. He said but we talk & we did talk last night & I said yes but I could easily have been talking to any male platonic friend. I think I'm feeling disconnected. I have for a long while & don't know how to fix it or if I should just accept this is marriage after 16 years. He is happy to discuss anything practical but is just not into discussing feelings or anything like that. I feel a bit stuck. I genuinely care & love him but I can't say our physical relationship is in a good place either. Otherwise we have a happy home. Im not sure if I have a question but I'd appreciate any comments. Maybe I need to hear if life is good I shouldn't go looking for problems & and any silly notions of having a man whose clothes I want to rip off belongs in fantasy land and visa versa too! Thanks