I am struggling with my partners neediness. He needs so much reassurance from me and gets offended by non-issues.
I can’t believe I’m writing this because it sounds so pathetic.
We are in our 30s.
I want to end it because I’m fed up of him taking offence by things that just aren’t a problem but every time I raise it he is ‘sorry for reading it wrong and is glad we we spoke about it’. But I can’t keep explaining myself over things that most people wouldn’t bat an eyelid at.
An example of this is yesterday when he sent me a funny meme. I read it when I got out of the shower then replied 5 minutes later saying ‘haha’.
He then messaged saying ‘oh, I was only joking you know’. I said I know it was a joke, hence why I said ‘haha’. He then rang me saying we need to clear the air as he thought I was ‘fuming’ because I didn’t reply immediately?!
This is beyond ridiculous and so petty. It’s such a non-issue. I can’t be dealing with getting phone calls to ‘clear the air’ over a fucking meme. He is a man child that assumes I’m upset all the time. I’m not sure how he wanted me to reply, I expect he wanted me to phone him doubled over with laughter at this stupid meme, as my reply clearly didn’t satisfy his need for validation about it being funny.
How draining. How can someone be this emotionally high maintenance? There are many more examples of this. He assumes I’m annoyed a lot of the time when I’m simply not and I feel like I can’t be over the top all the time like he wants me to be as it’s so tiring and I’m not a fake person.